What am I waiting for? Why we blindly wait with hope for tomorrow
The world is a by-product of waiting and hope. We hope for tomorrow with nothing to show on today. We are taught to wait. One of the serious problems that tomorrow holds is its unknown factor. As the president once said, the best way to predict the future is to make it. It is in fact harder to sit and wait for a chance than to stand up and change the future.
One of the challenges schools bring is the master-worker process it introduces from the early age. For everything we do we expect someone to approve it. And there is the teacher with smile and warm welcome to applause us and tell us we did good. Of we raise our hands to speak or to ask to visit the bathroom. We tend to do the same later in life.
We urge someone to tell us whether to marry that girl we have been dating for more than a year. Therefore; we stand and hesitate, “is she even the one?” Our mind needs someone to guide us which path to take next. If thought, this is a heavy load on the mind. Then we tend to avoid it. We tend to do whatever comes to mind or whatever comes along. We go to shop to have tea and since there is not tea there we drink coffee. As we spent more time gossiping, ignoring a work that should be done. We watch movies long enough for our eyes to discomfort.
We wait for tomorrow for no avail.
I have three reason why we wait for tomorrow,the unknown.
Fear is the primary factor for success and failure of life. It is fear that govern the world. And through rear the powerful manipulate the rest. We have fear of losing our homes, we have losing of our family member, we have fear of losing our husbands and wives…our life is full of fear. The environment itself has the mechanism to control us with its systems. The mortgage, the school fees, the fast-changing life… This all makes us numb from early age. Only those who have examples before them and these who have the fortune to go on will succeed faster in life, at least it seems. Out of fear we freeze and wait for tomorrow to magically intervene and save us.
2-Waiting for someone to tell us what to do.
As age progresses maybe realise than they have been waiting for something, a father or mother figure to tell them what to do. Our parents, like the school system, have fed us, read us stores at bed side, they lull us when we cry and the buy us everything we need. “Don’t cry” they say, weeping our tears. We didn’t learn to cry our eyes out and see nothing happened and we are only being nasty. We didn’t learn to be strong alone. For this we dare break laws and we wait for parents to save us, and they usually did that even lying. And growing up, without any physical and psychological challenges, we tend to be children forever secretly waiting to grow with hope for tomorrow.
3-Religion “hope”, the bible says.
Hope, the book defines it as believing of the unknown without seeing the impact today. Hope is good in itself. Because it is hope that extends many people’s lives in this chaos detested world. But when hope becomes personal cult and excuse that is the challenges. The bible itself says belief without work is nothing. You should be able to work. Those apostles and followers themselves have worked to feed themselves. People like Paul have sewed tents to make money. Religion doesn’t ask you to sit and hope for tomorrow.
What you have to do it to have a purpose in life. propose it necessary. Many people who suffer with this syndrome are those aimless people. Then have goals and schedules of doing them. If you have not done nothing until now, it is probable that you won’t do much in the future, unless you change. Then you should realise that unless you are luckiest guy in the world, you won’t become day or even one day. That is fantasy. Think what you want to be and work to get that. And accept whatever chance that comes along. The rest is fantasy. The rest is hoping for tomorrow to make miracles.
Hesitation is a mind’s way of avoiding possible risk. It’s good then since it helped ancestors avoiding acting for fearing the sound they heard in the woods. Hesitation in this age is a liability. It kills. It is nothing more than a sign for the lazy. If you hesitate you are likely to lose. This is the principle.
Minutes before I was asked to speak on a conference on the result of my 2 month life project that also created this blog. I hesitated for a moment. “Can I speak? Am I the best here to talk? What if there are others with better speech? What would the rest think what if I fail…” Event if I know I could do it, I hesitated. “May be other time”, I said,ignoring the the request.
The syndrome of the modern education is it makes the smart hesitates. If you have noticed it is the smarter how hesitates a lot. “Wait”, the mind says. What is there is a better way to do it and what if someone else could do it better and what if they don’t like it? What if…
The difference between lowest IQ the rest is, they don’t hesitate. They hope for tomorrow like the rest but are not afraid to get emotional with today.
One can kill hesitation by learning that there is no perfect timing or perfect fit for many things. The best time is now. Don’t hesitate.
Hope for tomorrow but don’t sit and wait it.