Goals in simplest form are ways to achieve your purpose. Purposes are vague and vast, therefore not achievable. For you to make value in life, you should have goals that you refer back.
First let’s see what life goals are.
The first world is getting complicated as life is largely deviating away from the natural to the made. Life without computers and machinery is becoming less and less. One has to adjust to the fast-changing environment. Market price,fashion inventions all change overnight. This change has a powerful effective on ones thinking and living.
If you live without purpose, you will be lost in the game. It is the same as surfing in ship thought the night gale. The challenge is worth the danger if only you have the end in your mind. And that end takes hours and hours to achieve. If you are the one with a goal of crossing the see to get in to other man’s land or to get riches, or to finish then you have that vision. But guess what if you are on the boat to please who are with you. Then the gale the wind the worry is not worth it. You will get yourself shimmering and promising never to get back on that boat. Imagine how that can translate in life.
Life goals are for these who get it. It is for those who are on the boat for a strong reason.
The cart and the horse
Before setting goals in life first find your purpose or just set goals no matter yours propose could be. This are ideas of two ways.
Does one have to wait to find its purpose before setting goals? Some say finding purpose is a journey. If that is right, then you should set goals as soon. On the other hand, they say, one should set goals in regards to its purpose, then after finding their purpose.
Life goals are some logical statements. For example, waking up at 5 could be a goal for someone who want to run marathon as a vision. Waking up at five and running for 1 hour a day could be daily goal. Although running is not a man’s destiny, it could have goals in its self.
What goes first?
As I shared above, you should be able to find your purpose, no matter how accurate it is, making life goals. The number one reason most people are confused in life and the reason they quit is because they don’t have that one macro level vision that encourages them to cross the sea.
Unless you find your purpose, the rest is futile. Then find what makes you happy, what you want to do the rest of your life. Then come back to setting goals.
What are good life goals?
Good life goals are these that makes you better and better each day. These are things that could bring you up to your dreams. For the athlete who want to break world record, waking up in the morning to run, is a goal.
Your life gaols could be made with in broad categories.
Purpose>broader parts of life>life goals
Once you find your purpose, next is to find broad categories of life that you want to work on. These are health, relationships, social life, productivity and more.
For example, one of the categories of life that I needed to work on to become fruitful is my health. Simply saying I have a goal to become healthy is vague and not attainable. Instead I say, I need to go to gym 4 times a week or I use supplements for a year time or I need to run 10 minutes a day.
These are life goals that help you progress in life and in your vision.
A year before, a woman came to my office, talking about her life misery. Here tone was clear that she was terrified of her husband. She was not sure of living with a man life that. After marring him with family’s peer pressure, she found herself not being happy with him. At the end of the first year she was totally broken down. She was waiting for me to consult her on her decision. She was thinking of divorce, but she does not know how the family or the society reacts. As a stranger whose task was listening her pain, I sat there thinking what she would do.
The next hour. I stopped her and asked her what her purpose in life is. She is a smart woman with college degrees, but she didn’t know what to live for day to day struggle. And nine to five. I asked her to come up with three things she wants to be as a child, or something she likes to do in their life. Within a second she came up with once clear life purpose. She breaks down in tears when she talks about it. After a period of comfort, I asked her what do you have to do to get to that vision.
I called it category of life, the shelves in life.
She mentioned them, my health, my beauty for modelling, my business.
I asked her to note what problems she had in each and what more she can do.
- Take care of my eyes, they are itching from crying
- Take care of my ulcer, I have acid reflex
- Eat vegan for a year
- Have private time alone before husband comes home
- Have courage to talk with my husband every night
- Tell him my feelings no matter he acts
In the process, she found out what was wrong about the relationship. And she made herself new in minutes finding her purpose. These life goals were so strong, her husband apologised to her. Later she reported that she and her husband are living in peace; she joined gym. And he cooks dinner three times a week.
Life goals are necessary for self. They become habits and they inspire you to become better.