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what do I want to do with my life? figuring out what to do with your life

what do I want to do with my life? figuring out what to do with your life is not that hard. Your are probably here to figure out what to do with your life. you could be confused. there are many people like that who keeps asking what do i wan to do with my life? This happens at every age, not only at young age. Sometimes you become what you want to be and all is set and you have no more to do. or you have even never tried yet.

what do I want to do with my life_imagesometime life becomes too demanding and overwhelming for many. That is alright. There is a lot going on in the world. It is normal to feel lost and to ask what do I want to do with my life, especially if you don’t have a proper coach or guide.

Here i will show you three main ways to answer the question “what do I want to do with my life?” and i will help in the process of figuring out what to do with your life.

What if some magic or miracle happens and someone asks you “what have you done with your life?” Stop reading and think 3 things you have done with your life. If you can count three and if you believe these things are aligned with your purpose and if you are happy, then you are on to something.Read no more.

But if you are like most people , you are stuck on the first list. You even don’t believe what you did was useful. “I got your degree but so what?; My pretty face doesn’t do nothing for me…” This is what many people i meet say to  me.

Most say “I want to be someone great, known , a celebrity.” But they don’t know how and doing what.  The problem is most people out there want to be something but they can’t say what it is. They want to marry but they can’t say what type person. They say they have a plan but they have done nothing the last few years.

The world is full of people who does not know what they need. They only hope tomorrow and curse today.

The first short cut to becoming do something fast is to think in details. To figure out to what niche to stick to. There is a small book that talks about changing life by changing the general perception of life.(i don’t remember the title, it has been more than a decade since I read it) In one of the chapters the author talks about a story of  a woman he met on his workshop. She told him she wanted to be an author for all of her life but she could not start.

Then he noticed the problem and he continued asking, “what kind of author?”

She paused. “What do you mean?”

“What type? Comedy, children, horror, romantic story…”

It was all of a sudden clear for her. the answer was all in front of her all her life. what she had to do was to think smaller.  And one simple question gave her few books with in a year time.

I believe that one has to think in little details. Details matter much in life since the world is going for specialisation. Specialisation is efficient way of solving a challenge, no matter how it confines one in to a corner. One can become laser focused into being one thing and strive to be good in it.  Many known authors specialise in one genre. Musicians also do that.

Instead of being an author, think what kind of author you want to be. If you want to become entrepreneur then what type. Online, offline, what do you want to sell.

This leads you to the second step. Here you need to identify your strength. If you can’t sit long hours, don’t try to be a programmer. If you can’t speak don’t be journalist, although possible. It is similar to believing your DNA. (term borrowed from Gary vaynerchuk)What you are good at since birth. if you can write, then learn what to be in relation to the first step.

Read an article on Entrepreneurial DNA. Do you have it? 

Third, just list as much as you can things that you can do in the three columns. Ask your self  “what do I want to do with my life?”

Things I enjoy and cant get enough as a hobby Things i have learn Things I already know
1-Fashion 1-Fixing my car 1-I have degree in     economics
2- 2-real estate

After than come back after few hours and revisit your list. Cancel out these you really cant do now . This could be due to time constraint or resource, money or even passion. Then come up with three on the top. Next is to go back to the first tip, that is to go in details. Instead of saying i want to write about fashion, say i write about a specific brand or specific out fit. Do that for one year. And improve along the way.

what do i want to do with my life is a common question among many. I gave you the three short cuts to figure out what to do with your life. What you have to do what you have chosen after reading this article without hesitation. Then your will be fine.

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What am I waiting for? Why we blindly wait with hope for tomorrow

The world is a by-product of waiting and hope. We hope for tomorrow with nothing to show on today. We are taught to wait.  One of the serious problems that tomorrow holds is its unknown factor. As  Lincon once said the best way to predict the future is to make it. It is in fact harder to sit and wait for a chance than to stand up and change the future.

One of the problems of the modern-day school is it teaches you a master- worker process from an early age. Even after school, we are conditioned to expect someone to tell us what and when, and, moreover, we are hungry for approval. We dream for a teacher with a smile and a warm welcome to applause us and tell us we did well. Like we raise our hands to speak or to visit the bathroom, we now look for permission.

We urge someone to tell us whether to marry that girl we have been dating for more than a year. Therefore; we stand and hesitate, “is she even the one?” Our mind needs someone to guide us which path to take next. Then we tend to avoid heavy thought. We start to act reckless, do whatever comes to mind and whatever comes along and we wait for tomorrow for no avail.

Here are 4 reasons why we wait for tomorrow, the unknown.

1-Fear.

Fear is the primary factor for success and failure of life. It is fear that governs the world. And through the rear, the powerful manipulate the rest. We have fear of losing our homes, we have to lose from our family member, we have a fear of losing our husbands and wive. our life is full of fear. The environment itself has the mechanism to control us with its systems. The mortgage, the school fees, the fast-changing life… This all makes us numb from an early age. Only those who have examples before them and those who have the fortune to go on will succeed faster in life, at least it seems. Out of fear we freeze and wait for tomorrow to magically intervene and save us.

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2-Waiting for someone to tell us what to do.

As age progresses maybe realize than they have been waiting for something, a father or mother figure to tell them what to do. Our parents, like the school system, have fed us, read us stories at the bedside, they lull us when we cry and the buy us everything we need. “Don’t cry?” they say, weeping our tears.

They cared for us and we barely learned to be strong alone. For this we dare break laws and we wait for parents to save us, and they usually did, even lying. And growing up, without any physical and psychological challenges, we tend to be children forever secretly waiting to grow with hope for tomorrow.

3-Religion “hope”, the bible says.

Hope, the book defines it as believing of the unknown without seeing the impact today. Hope is good in itself. Because it is what that extends many people’s lives in this chaos detested world. But when hope becomes a personal cult and excuse that is the greater challenges. The bible itself says belief without work is nothing. You should work. Those apostles and followers themselves have worked to feed themselves. People like Paul have sewed tents to make money. Religion doesn’t ask you to sit and hope for tomorrow.

What you have to do it to have a purpose in life. propose it necessary. Many people who suffer from this syndrome are those aimless people. Then have goals and schedules of doing them. If you have done nothing until now, it is probable that you won’t do much in the future, unless you change. Then you should realize that unless you are the luckiest guy in the world, you won’t become day or even one day. That is fantasy. Think about what you want to be and work to get that. And accept whatever chance that comes along. The rest is fantasy. The rest is hoping for tomorrow to make miracles.

4-Hesitation

Hesitation is a mind’s way of avoiding possible risk. It’s good then since it helped ancestors avoiding acting for fearing the sound they heard in the woods. Hesitation in this age is a liability. It kills. It is nothing more than a sign for the lazy. If you hesitate you are likely to lose. This is the principle.

Minutes before I was asked to speak on a conference on the result of my two-month life project that also created this blog.   I hesitated for a moment. “Can I speak? Am I the best here to talk? What if there are others with better experience? What would the rest think what if I fail…”  Even if I know I could do it, I hesitated. “Maybe other time”, I said, ignoring the request.

The syndrome of modern education is it makes the smart hesitates. If you have noticed it is smart that hesitates a lot. “Wait”, the mind says. What is there is a better way to do it and what if someone else could do it better and what if they don’t like it?

What if.

One can kill hesitation by learning that there is no perfect timing or perfect fit for many things. The best time is now. Don’t hesitate.

Hope for tomorrow but don’t sit and wait for it.

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Life changing events. How to use life changing events for good?

Life changing events are everywhere. They are around us. In fact, every event in our life has the potential to change our lives. But some events put us in danger, to challenge us and make us better.

I just watched a movie with a twist when a family moved to town for retreat and caught up with gang affiliated individuals. The movie ends with every one getting noting out of it but a little kid learning a lesson of his life from one of the gangs. He seemed to learn how to put bully away and feel better before passing through fear and shock.

If you look closer to your life, most of things that challenge you actually made you become better.

Life changing events are all around us. We can’t escape them unless we sit tight waiting for them to pass. But it is up to us how to take care of the events. You can challenge them and learn from then and become better or stay there crying and weeping for them to pass.

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finding your passion

Lessons I learned about finding your passion, how do you find your passion?

Passion is the only fuel that drives life. Without it the world would have end up becoming lazy. Passion guides ways and make things done. And this passion could originate out of pure talent for the thing or out of fear as seen in some inventors or out of boredom.

However, without passion one won’t be successful.

Then how can one find passion.

As a child, I had an ambition and passion for various things that I rarely overwhelms me. I loved English poetry, I loved self-help books, I loved science especially space science, and theoretical physics, I loved philosophy and some of psychology.

Without enough time dedicated for these, I was a book worm sitting at a corner the small library trying to understand complex theories.

This was fun until it does wasn’t. I grew and life became real. I learnt that university makes us choose a single subject to study; the culture forces us to marry a single person and economics forces us to give birth to a certain number.

As the world demands “specialised talent”, a general of everything becomes irrelevant. Then, finding your passion is necessary.

The challenge is choosing few from what the world could offer. No matter how scary and boring it seems, finding your passion in the few is necessary.

The basic lesson I got through time is your passion lays in one of the three spaces: your knowledge, your habit and what you want to know.

1-your knowledge

A doctor has much better knowledge about haemorrhoid than an engineer. That is a knowledge. A child of entrepreneurs is usually an entrepreneur before maturing. This is knowledge and skill developed from experience. If you have immense knowledge in a single topic, you might find it easy to develop passion for it.

2-Habit

Habits could be developed without formal education. Habits could be passions. But these habits should be either useful to the world or could make money. Habit for fun is only a labor of love. This, you could do it in free time and not as a permanent life business.

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3-What do you want to know?

Fixing your car, dating, becoming small business owner. If you wish it enough, not for the knowledge sake itself, but also for its appeal for you, then why don’t you pursue it as a passion?

It is hard to find a passion in this world. Everyone wants to be an athlete in athletics season; everyone wants to be a king after game of thrones is aired. You get my point. The information overload helped the mind wobble more than ever. Passions change every day. A yesterday’s college student is a today’s your tube’s wannabe star. Yesterday’s soldier is today’s Uber driver. The world is changing and so is our mind.

The secret to finding your passion is to look back inside. If you look closer , you will find it covered and waiting to be unveiled.

The first step to finding your passion is to look inside and ask what is it I like to do every day without getting tired. What is that one thing that could do me all night no matter how I feel. I know people who stay up all night to come up what a single structure for the building they are designing. That is a passion, if not insanity.

Ebay advice on what to sell on the site is to look back to home and to find something that you haven’t used long.  It is there you find it soon.

This should be useful. Don’t mention your compulsive gaming habits as a passion until you can find a way to change it to something useful for others and for yourself. This is time waster until it becomes otherwise for you.

Then find what you are good as and bad in life. I am bad at watching soccer. I hate that thing. That is time wasting. For my friend who is obsessed with every game, every major league is a passion in deed. He talks about it every second of the next day about the last game.

I am good at analyzing problems; at listening other’s challenges and give practical but great insights. I am good at self-discipline and easily understand complex theories.

Then figure out what to do with it. If you have good singing voice, sing with it. Don’t care what I am doing or what your best friend is doing. At least do it as a spare time passion. If you can write, start your blog. If you can act, and you love it, join a community with same interest. Start your you tube channel.

Passion is best when seen with purpose ,and purpose is an end. Keep working not matter what the current performance says. With consistent work, you will get there. But all starts with finding your passion.

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I hate my life : 10 things people that hate their life do.

“I hate my life”, she said trying to catch my attention. “I hate my life, I slid my harms many times trying to end it, but I am still here. They say what you hate follows you. Life follows me.” Her voice was shaky and her eyes never left gazing the floor. “Life is hard!”, her tears preceded her.

Love and hate are two different emotions packed in the same bag. They are the fabrication of the wobbling mind and crazy days.

I once heard of the story of a hard working individual that life got him the wrong way. In one morning, moments after that he read his wife’s divorce note on the kitchen counter, he learned he was let go at the job. “I hate my life.” he was crying in the way home with his family picture in a box that he collected from the office desk. Depressed, he picked up the phone to share his sadness with his family.

Just before he finished speaking, rejoicing, they told him that he won the lottery that he had bought weeks before.

His emotions switched around within a second. He learned how lucky he was and he saw how life was good to him all this time. He managed to love his life again.

He runs to his car thinking to celebrate with family, and soon to learn that all was a setup and he doesn’t win the lottery.

The moral of the story is happy and sad are there inside you. what matter is how you see events that occur in life. “The day is boring” is not the ultimate reality. It is what your mind feels on the day. “I hate my job” is a personal opinion that reflects your interaction with the job or workplace or employees. It may not necessarily reflect a fact.

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The interpretation of life is personal. What is good is not good. It is only good for us. What is beautiful is not beautiful it is beautiful for us. “I hate my life” is a personal choice of decision.

So, if the above is true, then ” I hate my life ” is only a false preconception of reality.

Here are things that people that hate their life do and people who love their life do.

1-People who hate life say “I hate love.”

People who hate life have only one word “I hate life.” They complain a lot. They are not satisfied no matter how events turn out.

People who love life say “I love life” no matter how life treated them. Life cannot always be perfect. There are ups and downs. Leaning to the positive is mandatory.

Without this strength waiting on tomorrow is harder. Hope to help us pursue tomorrow. And hate does not have hope. Hate only gets you despair.

2-people who hate life don’t progress. They sit still and don’t change.

People who love life dare to change. Change is not a must for them. It is a tool to getting better and better in loving life. They know that with change is satisfaction and with satisfaction is love and with love is life.

3-people who hate life don’t care about dangers.

They could run into danger at any moment and they care less. I once read a book about a testimony of a soldier on the battlefield. Heat one moment noticed how one of his friends was really strong and confident while walking on a ground paved with grenades. Surprised, he asked him how unfearful and confident he was. The soldier then replied saying that it is not he was confident, it is he hates his life.

People who love life love themselves. They don’t allow a single scratch on their flesh, moreover, on their spirit.

4-people who hate life hate their body.

People knowingly and unknowingly hate their life lose respect for their body. They eat what is available and not what is useful. They do not care about their health and they get obese or super thin. Some don’t get a shower and they don’t groom well.

People who love life are always on the spot. They change clothes, they take showers on time. They keep their teeth healthy and especially their internal organs. They respect life then they respect their body. They care about their sexual health and mental health.

5-people who hate life live with people who hate life.

They say you are the average of your five close people. If you live with the hater you become one. If you stay with the smart you become smart, at least you will learn the way to smart. East Africans has a quote, “a goat who befriended a donkey, returns home learning farting.” Your day defines you.

People who love life, carefully choose with whom they spent their day. They are discriminatory. They don’t allow losers to ruin their day. They don’t care what others think of their selective behavior. They respect their intuition more than people’s opinions.

6-people who hate their life hate their jobs, their family.

It is sometimes psychological. People despise life, and they start drinking. They get depressed. They start developing a negative feeling about the necessary things in life. They forget to live in peace. They nag. They created stress on their close ones because if their own unsatisfaction. This, in turn, leads to breakups and distraction.

People who love life, love others, care for their family. They love what they do. If they don’t love it, they don’t blame it on life. They know life is progress. And they will work hard and change their situations.

They succeed in the presence of challenges. They get that degree at evening class and get raises. They work smart and get noticed at the office. They study hard and get good grades. If they hate their wife’s weight, they don’t despise her or insult her, they simply work to change that. 

7-people who hate life live discriminated life.

They get depressed and stay away from the public, weeping and complaining, only to go deeper into stress. They don’t like talking with others as they developed hate for people: they are the source of the problem. Their favorite quote is “I hate my life.”

People who love life, love people. They know people are the source of happiness in life they respect others. They respect opinions. They live to serve because they know the value of life. They don’t spend the day alone depressed when they can spend it with people they love.

8-people who hate life don’t see a future.

They only live in the past fearing the future. Today doesn’t exist if you don’t love it. The fear of the past limits the hope of tomorrow.

People who love life know their treasure is in tomorrow no matter how bad today looks. Their riches and life grow bigger and bigger with time. And their limited resources don’t measure today’s worth tomorrow’s progress does.

Summary

life is to be loved. Many people say I hate my life. This is common. Life is something to be appreciated and to be progressed through. Without this, life is not well lived. People who hate their life don’t change. They stay the same for years. They don’t respect their body, they don’t love their family, they hate others, they live among life haters and they have no clear image of the future.

People who love life don’t complain. They do whatever is necessary to get back in life. They don’t mind other’s opinions as they care about their own assumptions. They care for others; love their health and are careful of what they eat.  They love life.

 

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Finding your purpose : A short guide on finding your purpose for success

Finding your purpose is a tough task. Finding your purpose is a life time job. There is no ultimate answer for what your purpose is. Because the idea of purpose grows with age and a maturity. Finding your purpose is indeed a person responsibility. People usually wait for eternal involvement for finding their purpose. We might have encountered people who are lost and pass their days on a couch, thinking what their purpose before birth is.

Others struggle through paying thousands to attend consultation, consulting astrology and other similar sciences for finding their purpose.

Finding your purpose _imageIs it you who should find your purpose?

We have talked how purpose of life could be seen from personal or general perspective. Some have assigned personal purpose from state perspective others from religion and other from mystical and philosophical.

But when it comes to an average person whose resources are limited to a bound point, finding a purpose from all this point is irrational.

Life is indeed to be appreciated. It is good to do good. At the same time, every person should find their purpose in this vast world. Only this was one can become a useful part of the society.

How: finding your purpose.

To find your purpose,  follow three major criteria. As I said before purpose is something you want to live for. For some, it is service, or others is it is creative field. For others, it is entrepreneurial arena.

1-Stick to your DNA.

Gary Venyrchuck in his book talks about DNA. DNA in his understanding is a person’s strength. For some physical is easier than mental. For tall people playing basketball is easier that the average height people. Some are shy and they need to communicate through text. Others are obsessed with self so they like to be the spot light. If you believe your instinct and stick to what your DNA says to you, then you can start with that.

Check Gary’s best selling book on how to cash in on your passion.

2-What you know and what you do.

A practising doctor has thousands of times better chance of living with same job as a purpose than an average person. What you know is what you learnt in school or at home or anywhere else. What you do can be your skills and hobbies. If you’re good at fixing things this could be your purpose.

3-what makes you happy.

What is that one things that you won’t see your watch to stop. What is that one thing that ticks you and takes you all night without being tired. If you have one you are lucky, you should stick to that, even as part timer.

Finding your purpose what to do next.

Finding your purpose this way needs to list the things that you have unique things under the points discussed above. After that you need to reorganise these in to their relations. For example, you might be good at sewing cloths. But if you curse your fate while doing that, then that might not be you. Move on. In everything you do, happiness should be the centre.

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Three tips for finding your purpose faster

When one becomes mature, its obsession with death begins. A man/woman is known with their fair attitude in life that is life is not fair and that is OK. And I shall do something about it. That is, it. Whatever you want to do, if you don’t do it as fast, you are not that useful. So, don’t overthink do it.

If you agree with this here are three pointers that are useful for finding your purpose.

1-Don’t over think.

Your life is not better than others until you become useful. A useful person has many lives as they live for others, above themselves. Overthinking is a way of the mind to escape reality. Doing is better than thinking. Testing in doing should be the method. If you find one big vision in life test if for some months and find out. if you don’t like it move on to the next. That is why we said finding purpose is a life time job.

2-Have a time off. Mind wobbles.

Thoughts are not reliable. They are managed according to the environment you are in. When you are happy with what you do, you want to do it for life until you are not happy with it once again. Instead of relying on your wobbling mind in the chaos world, find a peaceful time, away from the work and life. Take a week or 3 weeks’ time off and think deep on what you want.

3-write it.

As I said the mind wobbles. Finding your purpose is big. You should see it in fractions. You should divide it in to days and hour. What you have thought every hour could be useful. Start writing, if you don’t until now. You don’t know what you are missing. Read it once a week and reflect on it.

4-Ask others of what you are good on.

We human are good in criticizing others but not ourselves. We tend to run away from self-examinations. People tell you when you do bad but they don’t tell you what good you have. That is part of the critical culture. To know that you have then you shall ask.

Finding your purpose in life begins with finding what you are good an , what you can do and what makes you happy.

For more read Gary’s book.

 

 

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The three layers of success only few know and how to become successful in each

Introduction

” Am I successful? ” is a question in many people’s minds. Many have asked similar questions throughout history.

Who is successful then? Are you successful? Are these tattooed, drug-induced gang musicians on the TV successful? Are these low IQ senior year university students successful for graduating? What is a success after all?

This question bugged my mind for long, since elementary school, for a deep desire to be successful in life. Back then, my passion and dreams were not based in the real world, rather in the ‘perfect’ image of the world in the mind. My tomorrow was obscured with the fight of the existing world and the fancy dream path I wanted to take. When the going got tough, I felt a loser. This was a constant question: ” am I successful, yet? ” You probably also wanted to figure out if you are successful or not.

After finishing reading this article you will never doubt and ask ” am I successful? ” again.

When your read this article I want you to understand that life is about potential. Even though your past matters what count is how you decide to live your future.

So, am I successful?Are you successful?

Think of success as multidimensional concept rather than cause and effect. It has various shape and form and it definitely is not unidimensional. To understand success is to understand something that changes it self every time you see it. Because after all, it is the people that determine success. For the sake of simplicity, let’s define success based on the observer.

So, success has three layers where it is defined or achieved.

The first layer is the wider layer, that is success in the eyes of the general society.

This is how society defines your achievement. Success, after all, is relative. Passing classes or going to school is enough on this layer. Starting a job and feeding a family makes you a success in society. They call you a good citizen of society or something. The people you barely know attend your wedding, they talk about the suit and the makeup and the ceremony with great delight. 

Most people you know, probably 80%,are classified in this group.People in this level of success do what is required: they learn, they get jobs, they marry and have children. They work hard and they don’t go to sleep without food. Unless you are a stoner or drunk, wasting time idle, you are successful. After all, if society thinks you as successful, you are successful.

So, are you successful? If you answered no, leave this post and go to the end of this post to learn how to become successful in this layer, if yes continue reading.

Second layer: the acquaintance layer

This is more critical than the general massei opinion of success. You cannot live a mediocre life at this stage. You get things done and you don’t live to pass through the weekdays.

This layer is more real because your success is determined with people who have direct or indirect authority upon you. Passing from class to class does not impress parents like it impressed the society on the first layer. You should be able to get a grade that could compensate the expenses parents put out on you. Feeding family or being on time at home does not count here. You should be able to give attention to details, practically care for your family.

How many people you know have a beautiful but disfunctional family ? How many graduates you know who passed with struggled to pass through the years?

This layer is a practical, and quality layer.

Only a few people, probably 25%, are successful in this layer.

So are you successful? Is your success quality success? If no, go to the end of this post to learn how to become successful in each layer, how you can make your life a quality life. If yes, continue reading. I will show you another higher layer.

The third layer is the personal layer.

The third layer is for the dreamers. It is for the world changers. It is for those who are obsessed to be unique, to be more than the average. This layer is called the self-layer. Not more than 5% of people you know are in this layer. This layer is not judged based on what the society says or what the close ones want, but with what the self want. Here, achievement is criticized based on purpose and potential.

When you are in this stage of development, you care less for what others value, but you care more about what your dream values. The only thing that makes you happy is achieveing your high standard. Graduation does not overwhelm you because you have higher goal in life. You don’t party all night for a single success of on a project(even if celebrating your success is necessary) because you see life in the bigger vision.

Therefore, this layer is not about the ordinary or the quality, it is about value. Have you heard the saying “seek not to be a person of success but a person of value ” ?

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On how to become successful

If you know on which success layer you are on, it is easy to understand how to improve your situation.

Here, I will show you how to become successful based on your current success status.

To be successful, in the society layers, you don’t necessarily have to work that hard. You only have to cooperate with the norm. Go to school, respect others, finish home work on time, have friends, get a job, have a family: live the norm. That is enough. Quality of life is not that high here. Life is pretty much easy. How to become successful in this layer is by understanding the norm and by living it.

If you are not satisfied the first stage, it is time to grow. In the second layer, you can’t just be a husband, you have to be a lover; you can’t just be a student, you should excel; you can’t be a boss, you should be a leader. You have to buy flowers, you should say ” I love you” . When you can get above c, passing with D does not work here.

People in this layer of success know that they are accountable for their deeds, they learn and put their knowledge in to action.

Remember, life is celebration in the first layer. But it is a work in this layer. Live life to the fullest.

Success in the third layer is harder. You should be able to work harder and smarter. People in this layer live their life purpose.  Life here has no specific worldly measure. The person himself measures the success with his/her own guidelines. For example, a doctor could become a teacher on weekends. An inventor like Steve Wozniak could become an elementary school teacher. This is up to the mind of the actor. This is what makes one to live for someting and leave their mark.

How you become successful in this layer is by finding your purpose , living that purpose and by influencing the world.

Read more: 10 things you should know about purpose.

What do you think? On which layer of success are you in? Comment.

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what is the point of life? How to understand life to be successful

We have all asked same question at least once in our lives. What is the point of life? What is the point of all this.  Especially this generation is weak and whiny always asking “what is the point of education, what is the point of having a girlfriend. What is the point of me involving when others can do it better?”

We prefer sleeping and wishing than working. Most of the “what is the point”questions are not asked from the point of getting answers but from getting despaired. Many are tired of the way in their head before getting started on the first step.

Why do people ask what is the point of life? The misunderstanding.

Before talking about what the point of life is ,it is necessary to talk about why we question the worth of living.

1-Religion is misunderstood.

Most children brought up with relation have the idea of the temporary world. They later ask “what is the point of life” when the world is very temporary and our struggle are futile. Why should I have to work this hard and why should I solve a problem of a world that passes like a wind. Religion is misunderstood because of ignorant teachers and ignorant us.

Most religious revolutionists have made an impact in the world. They have developed their own way to interact with the world so that the people could benefit from it. They live their life with their own standards and they worked their things off and made a change. But their ways are confusion for the rest.

2-Hard work is left out.

People this days get prize for any think, worst actor of the year, worst student of the year and more. Students get prize for not coming to class and for being lazy. What is the point becoming a way out of hard work? Our visions and our deeds are left and right. We became a generation of story tellers and not doers. We have nothing to show for our life but we have a lot of images on our phones. So, if you want to easily answer what is the point of life, then you should embrace hard work.

3-The internet motivation of life is people jumping off mountains in parachute and jumping on trampoline.

This is considered to be living the life you want in this age. What is the point of life. “I have to live a life the way I like.” Believe me we all need to live that that jumping and falling 365 days a year. But we have something to do. we have something we should do that is much harder than jumping off a cliff. That is called purpose.

4-Schools become a breeding compound for useless habits.

The western education does not solve a social and economic problem the student will have after school. They are usually theories and useless facts that not one benefit from, except to win arguments. Knowing about Mitochondria only helped these who joined zoology or related field. The rest of us have no idea why we wasted their time learning about it. Our schools teach about electric current where the students could not even fix their room bulb. The excessive parties and immorality kills the morals of students. Most are confused before asking what is the point.

5-Parents have no idea how to raise a child.

A primitive child is raised as cruel as possible to teach him the cruelty of the outside world. A single mistake could land him or her in a lion cage. The parents should be as specific as possible to keep their families alive. This is not the case today. But still the world is full of dangers and every activity needs struggle and effort. The parents are not example for children. They don’t tell them how to live life better. Most parents are obsessed with their personal life. One author said most boys are not masculine because they have grown without fathers, in mother’s hands. No one is there to tell them what the point is of life.

6-The world is pretending to be perfect.

The makeup celebrities, the perfect life, the pretentious society all seems to be on a perfect place where individuals are suffering from mediocre life. Without further study, the world seems to be perfect. The people we know have perfect mirage, perfect body, perfect skin, until we experiment closely. Reality and what it looks like are different. Usually despair of not having the perfect thing makes us ask what is the point of life , I am not that perfect.

So, what is the point of life. To say the least, I believe, life has no point. This is accidental life for bible. Whatever you do,surely, you will pass away. It is like living for a while. A person paints and decorate its house even though they don’t know how long they live in it.  What matters is not how long you live, what matter is how you live.

When trump was bankrupted again, the bank promised to give him some money but on one contingency, if he stops his luxurious life that costs him a great bunch of the money. But he refused, he refused even under bankruptcy.

Here are 4 things to do to figure out ” what is the point of life .”

1-Work is the primary point of the world.

Without work, you are nothing. Success and happiness are in achievement from work. You can try it yourself. Live a week without work on you couch, you will get bored. And you will ask what is the point of life. The one thing that Adam was told to do was cultivate. In other words, work. Once you find your purpose, what makes you intrinsically happy, then you have to work your things off to fulfil your vision.

2-Question everything.

Don’t accept everything written and published. Start from this article. The point is not having fun but to be fulfilled and help others. To care for yourself and care for one another. You should know that life on earth is not the end. It can’t be. Our soul is superior than our flesh that is the bag, the container.

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 but test them all; hold on to what is good, 1 Thessalonians 5:21

No one have the full answer, you should question yourself.

3-Take care of others opinion.

The schools are becoming business places. And parent don’t care until you behave. You can watch TV for hours or drink and nude dance like we have seen in some schools, the teachers don’t care much.  What is the point is a wise man question here? The point is to question that as well. You could be the idealist that question everything.

4-The world is pretentious.

The ads are fake. The pretty face is makeup. The perfect body figure is because of the cloths. The height is from the extra sole. Don’t blindly follow the perfect image of this pretentious world. You are better off with your own ideas and day dreams.

What is the point of life is appropriate question, but without perfect answer. For one to answer this question, one has to leave this pretentious, false world and has to question and live life itself.

 

 

 

 

 

How to let go of the past

How to let go of the past and create a whole new life

We all have a time and place we had a traumatic experience where we could not anticipate moving forward. I know a person who failed in front of VCs while presenting his start-up and promised never to go public again;  people who failed classes once and fear never to be at school. I know kids who were bullied at school and hate learning for it.

The world is created that way. The media celebrates who succeeds and hates who fails.

People don’t let go of the past for three main reasons

1- The past has some horror in it.

I once was emotional in front of a friend telling him how I hate my little perfect looking life. I was terribly worried about how the future turns out to be thinking of my shaky past. He immediately stopped me and told me that I have two choices in life: to cry about it and stay there for the rest of your life or stand up, stop whining and create a new life.

I have passed most of life trying to please my high standard mind. And I had to get the perfect thing out of my work, which is sometimes impossible. My days of thinking about perfection created horror in the closet, which made me fear of going into them.

2- The past has a failure in it.

Most people don’t start because of fear. Fear of failure. Failure has two faces: psychological and emotional. The psychological one is more of in the mind. This happens in people who have a permanent mark on their mind because of abuse, accident. The emotional is the general fear of something. When people do they fear what people say about them. It is amazing in this age people who don’t do are comfortable and people who do worry about what others would think. Opposing, the saying a wet person does not fear the rain, most cling to the past as a benchmark or their future.

3- The past took their energy.

There are energy-intensive people, events. There are horror spouses, there are energy taking works. If you find yourself abused and sacrificing your time and yourself into helping others without helping yourself it possible you would fear the future. Someone was telling me how he could not have a girlfriend because of 6 years because his girlfriend of 2 years betrayed him and left him for someone else. He was not only sad because of losing her but he thought he does not have the energy anymore to have a new girlfriend.

4- There are constant reminders of the past in your area.

If you break up with your boyfriend in your current apartment, and you have been depressed in it for months, then it is possible that the room is killing you. Our mind works in an association. Sometimes it associates events with places that have no direct relevance with.

5- The past is comfortable.

This is the opposite. When a kid stays for 40 years in his parents’ house, this could be a sign of comfort, if not a sign of being a loser. I remember when an elder person tells a mother to not give dinner for their 30 years old child who happens to live with her. He thought this would push him out to have his own life. When your past is comfortable in your head and when you can’t change, this is the time to change.

6- You fear the unknown.

I don’t know why we fear the future. In fact, most smart people do fear the future. Life is to be lived with trial and errors, except on life and death issues. We fear whether if she is the one, whether the job we have is the right one, whether to change our location or not.

I have always wanted to mold out of the scale of the world that holds me back. I have classified my life into smaller bits to see if I could see any gaps of light that could explode the whole thing and put me in a new universe. Change is not as easy as it was as a child.  We knew we were changing when we pass from class to class when we grow pubic hair when we change shoe size…

But after we grow life seems to go blind, slow, killing us away. I have figured out three ways to how to let go of the past and build the future.

1-The past is an issue only for overthinkers.

Overthinkers make something, but after washing the lovely part of their life. Overthinking is the new way to down. Overthinkers are procrastinators. They don’t start something until it is perfect. If you are dreaming the future by basing your data on your past failure, you mightn’t go further. This takes us to point two.

2-The past is a lesson.

If you have failed in the past, you are one step ahead from the rest. You have tested one way that will lead to failure. This is what Edison said at the end of thousands of similar experiments. You should find a way to learn from your past. Don’t run from them. Face them. Sit tight and write the. And figure out where the fault lies. And practice not to do them again. How to let go of the past starts by believing the past is just a lesson.

3- When you fail people will laugh.

This is wrong. How many times have you laughed when someone else failed. If you’re like the immature gigs on the internet then you have done it for a while. But is you being that decent guy with a passion for life then you probably pity them? Life is full of failure, ups, and downs. Your failure is news for others, it is additional marketing. What if Elon Musk fails in his space x venture. The media would talk about him for a week or two then what? Then his failure is forgotten. Everyone will be waiting for what he would do next. The world is on his side because he tried and failed. How to let go of the past starts from believing that people are not bothered with your failure but with your success.

4-Get rid of the reminders.

If you still hung your ex-husband’s picture in them idle of the living room, then you are living in the past. If you can’t get rid of the car you had an accident with and you developed a fear of driving, get rid of that car. How to let go of the past starts with starting fresh. If you have lost friends who live in the past and remind you of your past cut them out. Start fresh.

Then do the following actions.

1-decide to change. A decision is hard to follow.

2-change where you stay.

Go to people like you who need change. Share your life. Share your story. Promise to change.

3-Destroy everything that pulls you back.

Change your house if you have to. Change your style and even your friends.

4-Write or record your journey and share it to the world, not all of them.

Write everything that you learned on How to let go of the past. Note your challenges and how you solved them or even your emotions. This will give you a reference to your progress.

5-life is progress.

Believe me, you can’t throw all the garbage away within a day or two or even a year. But through your grinding, you will find yourself being a changed person. Good luck with your present and future. How to let go of the past and create a whole new life continuous with believing that you can become better in time. And past doesn’t define who you are.

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The curse of modern education: 6 ways you are trained to be unsuccessful

The only thing that interferes with my learning is my education.
~ Albert Einstein

Education has always been a way of life for a few chosen throughout history: for these who influence the economy or the politics of the country. Many inventors and scientists, authors were lords, sons of lords or sons of rich people.

In this age education becomes a way of life for all. One has to begin its journey in schools since the age of three. They learn way of life through designed curriculum for up to 18 years.

Education is good. But modern education has some weakness.

1-It teaches you 9-5

9-5 Is a good training for the job world in the capitalist society. A person who is trained for 20 years will get used to working 9 to 5 with ease in the job world. But working 9 to 5 does not bring any more value for the world and for self, usually. For someone to be successful on grand level, one may have to hustle more hours or maybe less. At the same time, one has to be adapting to the time that is good for them to work on instead of only 9 to 5. Many people in life are trained to work in this range of time without thinking of what they are doing, what the future holds, only thinking about filling the time that is 9 to 5.

2-You expect someone to save you

I have most of the time waited for someone to come and save me from the things I do in the life after school. At school, the teachers are saviours. And that is portrayed in life same way. Most literate people are usually permission seekers, they need approval. They fear women, they fear life itself, usually. People usually wait in life, wait for someone to come and save them. They wait for someone to allow them to do what they have do, to voice their opinions, to take actions.

3- Useless information

Education is full of useless information.   Many of you might know what mitochondria is from your sixth-grade science. It is defined as energy house of cells. Many of us still doesn’t know what energy house is let alone what mitochondria is. Some of you may not even know what cell is. But this took almost a year to learn a concept that soon become irrelevant in the later life. I have never been reminded of mitochondria even for second after sixth grade until I started questioning its relevancy of it to my life.

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4- Judged based on the ability to memorize

For a student who was praised for most his life, it was unfair for me to judge education in a negative way. But truly, I had doubts some elementary school. Modern education is usually the ability to memorize than the ability to make it part of life or a character. Most of us memorized the text books to only answer few questions on exams. Education is irrelevant to life when it becomes a race to get good grades.

5-Not practical

Since the end it is all about getting accepted in to college, then it is probably a good idea to focus on passing exams than understanding and learning the real and useful substance of the education. This is probably why most Asian and African students could get better grades in the west. When education is a means of survival, you are not urged to know, but you are urged to get good grades. That is all. At the end of the year, you have got “A” on your physics courses but you can’t maintain your bulb. You got A on your management and business and you are living broke.

6-It teaches you irrelevant decency

You have to raise your hand to speak. And in later life you raise your hand to do whatever. The world is full of wolves. And you become one sheep who raised their hand before being eaten alive.

Modern education is a great part of life in the world. Without it the world would not be same. But the idea of education that is to produce people of same knowledge and structure is boring and rather useless. Education should be a place where skills are developed and freedom is exercised. Not a place of 9 to 5 with master and son dramas, and judgement based on ability to memorize that at the end of the day a useless information.