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change yourself, Lifestyle, meaning of life, passion, PurposeSeptember 14, 2017

Life has no meaning: 4 ways to make meaning in life

”Life has no meaning.”

That is a great leap for a layman to define the whole in four words. What is life anyways and what is the meaning of it? How do you identify when something has no meaning?

Well that needs some scientific explanation. But that is irrelevant to this article.

I speak in terms of experience, only in terms of the limited understanding that we all acquire, but probably won’t use anyways.

My empirical engagement in life suggests that we make meaning in life as we move through. Our decisions, our actions and our interactions make the smaller images that we individually want to see in the world possibly without a grand comprehension of the big image.

So, how do we make meaning in life in the world that has no meaning.

1-We live to experience and through the experience.

What is life for you? List the things that makes you believe that you have life or the things that makes a meaning in your life. These meanings are probably your experiences. For example, your personal meaning for life could be to make others happy. And making happy involves your love life, your family life or your work life. It is, therefore, all about your experiences and your engagement in the world.

What you do every day makes the meaning in your life. My life meaning and yours is different in shape and form.

A meaning of life for some is dark and dangerous. For others, it is a prison to escape. For some it is all about the short-term happiness no matter the consequences.

I can’t tell you about the experience that you should enjoy. It is in fact true that our life is in congruent with that we call moral or immoral. Live your life in the moral side, without affecting the world negatively.

Life has no meaning; we make meaning through the experience. Live to the fullest of what you can and what you have. Identify things that you want to do based on your experiences and do them.

2-Life has no meaning. Life is living now.

Tomorrow or yesterday are out of our natural control. No matter what quantum physics or others teach, the reality is we don’t know what happens within an hour. The only true control you have is on now. You can continue reading this text or you can escape it. You can shout at the very moment or you can sit still. Or you can do it as long as the conscious agrees.

If now is the time, why not enjoy now?

Enjoy each moment. Refuse to live a second of mediocrity. Say no if it does not fit you no matter the risk.

Recently I had a discussion with a group of stakeholders for some project. In fact, some were smart people from different parts of the world. In the middle of the meeting, I noticed that most of the things discussed were not useful for the project in any way. It was not useful for me or for the project. I had to ask the boss to conclude the meeting and move on with our lives.

I decided not to waste time on something that don’t see fit my limited time.

And this decision doesn’t go without risk. I could lost friendship from some and others probably hated my bold move.

No matter how it turns out live the life you enjoy.

3-Life has no meaning. We make meaning though purpose.

To make a life meaning, always think about your purpose. What is that one thing that bugs you? Do that what makes meaning to your existence.

I believe discovering your purpose could take time. Follow your passion and do that for a year. check if you still want to do that even after a year.

In order to define the meaning of your life, define what you want it to be in 10 years. How do you want to live life, how do you want to be seen what problems you want to solve? If you answer this question. You can define your life. and the meaning comes in the very moment when you live that big picture.

Everyone has one thing that they will be known with. Some are drunk others are inventors. It depends on your dedication to your purpose. You might know record-breaking athletes with good business skills. After 100 years people remember their records, probably not the money they make. Then focus on what you are good at, treat it like your purpose and live that. Life will make a meaning.

Life has no meaning. You’re make your meaning through your purpose.

4- life has no meaning. The meaning is individual.

Life is like opinion. You live it as you see it. It is the Individual that makes meaning.

Then how do you make your meaning? How do you define your life at this very moment?

A day in athlete’s life is not on a sofa but your’s could be. It is about the individual meaning and what you are willing to do.

Life has no meaning. You make the meaning through your individual experience. This means your experience makes the meaning and not otherwise.

change yourself, life style, meaning of life, passion, PurposeSeptember 14, 2017

Life has no meaning: 4 ways to make a meaning in life to live a grand life

”Life has no meaning.”

That is a great leap for a layman to define the whole in four words. What is life anyways and what is meaning? How do you identify when something has no meaning?

Well that needs some scientific explanation. But that is irrelevant to this article.

I speak in terms of experience, only in terms of the limited understanding that we all have, but probably won’t use anyways.

My empirical engagement in life suggested that we make a meaning in the life. Our decisions, our actions and our interactions make the smaller images that we individually want to see in the world possibly without a grand comprehension of the big image.

So, how do we make meaning in life in the world that has no meaning.

1-We live to experience and through the experience.

What is life for you? List the things that makes you believe that you have life or the things that makes a meaning in your life. These meanings are probably your experiences. For example, your personal meaning for life is to make others happy. And making happy involves your love life, your family life or your work life. It is all about your experiences and your engagement in the world.

What you do every day makes the meaning in your life. My life meaning and yours is different in shape and form.

A meaning of life for some is dark and dangerous. For others, it is a prison to escape. For some it is all about the short-term happiness no matter the consequences.

Life has no meaning; we make meaning through the experience. Live to the fullest of what you can and what you have. Identify things that you want to do based on your experiences and do them.

2-Life has no meaning. Life is living now.

If now is the time, why not enjoy now?

Enjoy each moment. Refuse to live a second of mediocrity. Say no if it does not fit you no matter the risk.

Recently I had a discussion with a group of stake holders for some project. In fact some were smart people from different parts of the world. In the middle of the meeting, I noticed that most of the things discussed were not useful for the project in anyway. It was not useful for me nor was it satisfying the implementation of the project. Guess what, I cut the meeting and asked the boss to conclude so that I could leave.

I decided not to waste time on something that don’t see fit my limited time.

And this decision doesn’t go without risk. I had lost friendship from some and others hated my bold move.

No matter how it turns out live the life you enjoy.

3-Life has no meaning. We make meaning though purpose.

To make a life meaning, always think about your purpose. What is that one things that bugs you to do. It could be so small that it makes others doubt you. Do these make a meaning to your life. Live them as fast as possible before your age runs out.

I believe discovering your purpose could take time. Instead of thinking “my purpose is to care for the poor,” Why don’t you go out and start caring for the poor? Do that for a year and not your experience. And decide if you truly want to do that.

Everyone has one thing that they will be known with. Some are drunk others are inventors. It depends on your dedication on your purpose. You might know record breaking athletes with good business skills. After 100 years people remember their records not the money they make.

Life has no meaning. Your make your meaning through your purpose.

4- life has no meaning. The meaning is individual.

Life is like opinion. Your live it or you hate it, you are right.

“It is beautiful.” Yes and no. There is no definite answer. It is the Individual that makes meaning.

Then how do you make your meaning? How do you define your life at this very moment?

A day in athlete’s life is not on a sofa but your’s could be. It is about the purpose and what you are willing to do.

Life has no meaning. You make the meaning through your experience. This means your experience makes the meaning and not otherwise.

Career, passion, PurposeAugust 16, 2017

Lessons I learned about finding your passion, how do you find your passion?

Passion is the only fuel that drives life. Without it the world would have end up becoming lazy. Passion guides ways and make things done. And this passion could originate out of pure talent for the thing or out of fear as seen in some inventors or out of boredom.

However, without passion one won’t be successful.

Then how can one find passion.

As a child, I had an ambition and passion for various things that I rarely overwhelms me. I loved English poetry, I loved self-help books, I loved science especially space science, and theoretical physics, I loved philosophy and some of psychology.

Without enough time dedicated for these, I was a book worm sitting at a corner the small library trying to understand complex theories.

This was fun until it does wasn’t. I grew and life became real. I learnt that university makes us choose a single subject to study; the culture forces us to marry a single person and economics forces us to give birth to a certain number.

As the world demands “specialised talent”, a general of everything becomes irrelevant. Then, finding your passion is necessary.

The challenge is choosing few from what the world could offer. No matter how scary and boring it seems, finding your passion in the few is necessary.

The basic lesson I got through time is your passion lays in one of the three spaces: your knowledge, your habit and what you want to know.

1-your knowledge

A doctor has much better knowledge about haemorrhoid than an engineer. That is a knowledge. A child of entrepreneurs is usually an entrepreneur before maturing. This is knowledge and skill developed from experience. If you have immense knowledge in a single topic, you might find it easy to develop passion for it.

2-Habit

Habits could be developed without formal education. Habits could be passions. But these habits should be either useful to the world or could make money. Habit for fun is only a labor of love. This, you could do it in free time and not as a permanent life business.

3-What do you want to know?

Fixing your car, dating, becoming small business owner. If you wish it enough, not for the knowledge sake itself, but also for its appeal for you, then why don’t you pursue it as a passion?

It is hard to find a passion in this world. Everyone wants to be an athlete in athletics season; everyone wants to be a king after game of thrones is aired. You get my point. The information overload helped the mind wobble more than ever. Passions change every day. A yesterday’s college student is a today’s your tube’s wannabe star. Yesterday’s soldier is today’s Uber driver. The world is changing and so is our mind.

The secret to finding your passion is to look back inside. If you look closer , you will find it covered and waiting to be unveiled.

The first step to finding your passion is to look inside and ask what is it I like to do every day without getting tired. What is that one thing that could do me all night no matter how I feel. I know people who stay up all night to come up what a single structure for the building they are designing. That is a passion, if not insanity.

Ebay advice on what to sell on the site is to look back to home and to find something that you haven’t used long. It is there you find it soon.

This should be useful. Don’t mention your compulsive gaming habits as a passion until you can find a way to change it to something useful for others and for yourself. This is time waster until it becomes otherwise for you.

Then find what you are good as and bad in life. I am bad at watching soccer. I hate that thing. That is time wasting. For my friend who is obsessed with every game, every major league is a passion in deed. He talks about it every second of the next day about the last game.

I am good at analyzing problems; at listening other’s challenges and give practical but great insights. I am good at self-discipline and easily understand complex theories.

Then figure out what to do with it. If you have good singing voice, sing with it. Don’t care what I am doing or what your best friend is doing. At least do it as a spare time passion. If you can write, start your blog. If you can act, and you love it, join a community with same interest. Start your you tube channel.

Passion is best when seen with purpose ,and purpose is an end. Keep working not matter what the current performance says. With consistent work, you will get there. But all starts with finding your passion.

carrier, passion, PurposeAugust 16, 2017

Finding your passion : lessons I learnt

However, without passion one won’t be successful.

Then how can I find my passion.

Without enough time dedicated for these, I was a book worm sitting at a corner the small library trying to understand complex theories.

As the world demands “specialised talent”, a general of everything becomes irrelevant. Then, finding your passion is necessary.

The challenge is choosing few from what the world could offer. No matter how scary and boring it seems, finding your passion in the few is necessary.

The basic lesson I got through time is your passion lays in one of the three spaces: your knowledge, your habit and what you want to know.

1-your knowledge

2-Habit

Habits could be developed without knowledge or formal education. Habits could be passions. But these habits should be either useful to the world or could make money. Habit for the love sake is only a labour of love. This, you could do it in free time and not as a permanent life business.

3-What do you want to know?

Fixing your car, dating, becoming small business owner. If you wish it enough, not for the knowledge sake itself, but also for its appeal for you, then why don’t you pursue it as a passion?

The secret to finding your passion is to look back inside. If you look closer , you will find it covered and waiting to be unveiled.

The first step to finding your passion is to look inside and ask what is it I like to do every day without getting tired. What is that one thing that could do me all night no matter what I feel. I know people who stay up all night to come up what a single structure for the building they are designing. That is a passion, if not insanity.

Ebay advice on what to sell on the site is to look back to home and to find something that you haven’t used long. It is there you find it soon.

I am good at analysing problems; at listening other’s challenges and give practical but great insights. I am good at self-discipline and i easily get complex theories.

life style, meaning of life, passion, Purpose, successAugust 10, 2017

Three layers of success and how to become successful in each.

How to become successful is a question in everyone’s mind. Success is one’s way of showing potential fulfilled. It could be expressed through achievement.

Who is successful then? Are these tattooed, drug induced gang musicians on the TV successful? Are these low IQ senior year university students being successful? What is success after all?

This question bugged my mind when I was an elementary shoot student, with a deep desire of being prominent, and on top. My passion and dreams were not based on the real world, rather on the scale wired by my mind. My tomorrow was obscured with the fight of the existing world and the fancy dream path I wanted to take.

Success as a whole is achieving a potential. It is producing something useful with definite purpose.

So, success has three layers where it is defined or achieved.

The first layer is the wider layer, that is success in the eyes of the general society.

This is what the society defines your success. Passing classes or going to school is enough on this layer. Starting a job and feeding a family makes you a success in the society. They call you a good citizen of the society or something. This is the first step to real success in life. Most of the society is classified in this group.

After this is the second layer, a layer of the’ ’close ones’’.

This are more critical than the general mass. You cannot live a mediocre life in this stage. At least you should pretend to get things done or the close ones will make you do that. Passing from class to class does not impress parents any more. You should be able to get a grade that could compensate the expenses parents put out for you.

Feeding family or being on time at home does not count here. You should be able to give attention to details, practically care for your family. This is more of a practice layer. This age is more of the more successful. This stage is enough for most to be on the group of the successful. Most of the rest of the society level success lives in this layer.

The their layer is the personal layer.

The third layer is for the dreamers. It is for the world changers. It is for those who are obsessed to be unique, to be more than the average. This layer is the self-layer. This layer is not judged based on what the society says or what the close ones want, but with what the self-want. Here achievement is criticized based on purpose, potential.

When you are in this stage of development, you care less for what others value, but you care more about what your dream values. The only thing that makes you happy is achieve of your high standard. Graduation does not make you fantasize because you have higher goal in life. You don’t party all night for a single success of a project because you see life in the bigger vision. This one is part of the big, that is yet to achieved. How to become successful is about how to live purposeful life.

The way on how to become successful

If you know which success layer is comfortable enough for you, read the next paragraphs. They will give you the way to be successful in each layer.

To be successful, in the society layers, you don’t necessarily have to work that hard. You only have to cooperate with the norm. Go to school, respect others, finish home work on time, be normal, have friends, get a job, have a family. That is enough. If you have no more wish in life, then stay here. Quality of life is not that high here but life is pretty much easy. How to become successful in this layer is by understanding the norm and by living it.

If you are not satisfied the first stage, it is time to grow. In this stage, you can’t just be a husband, you have to be a lover, you have to show love, you have to be on time for kids show. You have to buy flowers, say I love you every time. When you have to get above c, passing with D does not work here. In addition ,you are accountable for your deeds, and your deeds should consider what others want and what the situation demands.

Remember, marriage is celebration in the first layer. But it is a work in this layer. If you live in the first layer, marrying a living a crap life is good enough for you. But not in this layer.

Success in the third layer is harder. You should be able to work harder and smarter. You should live what you do and do it. Life here has no specific worldly measure. The person himself measure the success with his/her own guidelines.

For example, a doctor could become a teacher on weekends. An inventor like Steve Wozniak could become an elementary school teacher. This is up to the mind of the actor. This is what makes one to live for. Her mother’s advice is less useful, as the things that come to the person are insane. How to become successful in this stage is more than the trend , it is about purpose and satisfaction.

So, to be successful working hard is not enough. How to be successful needs at least 5 major steps.

1- Finding purpose.

To arrive at the third level of success, on should have a pure form of guide in a form of purpose. This is something that we give value for and wish we become one. This is the dream. If you find what makes you happy, the rest is ready.

2- Plan long term.

If you don’t know where you going, you don’t know when you are there. If you don’t have a long-term plan for your success life becomes like that mouse. Some one once asked a mouse what it needs to own from all the container but eh mouse replied “Just give me that”, pointing on one wheat seed on the floor.If you can’t see the big picture, then the lane for your success runs out.

3- Execute.

Production in touchable form is the only thing between success and failure. When you do things in tangible form, then you have something to show for your efforts.

4- Progress.

When you do things continuously no matter how others accept them, they become the norm. he world will give you a different way of understanding Once they notice it that way. The world sometimes criticize. What you have to do is to progress a make things easier.

5- Aim high.

Aiming for low is a loser’s way of becoming successful. If the bar is high, you don’t have to compete in it. You have to rise above the corpse of the norm.

What do you think? On which layer of success are you in? Comment.

Lifestyle, meaning of life, passion, Purpose, successAugust 10, 2017

The three layers of success only few know and how to become successful in each

Introduction

” Am I successful? ” is a question in many people’s minds. Many have asked similar questions throughout history.

Who is successful then? Are you successful? Are these tattooed, drug-induced gang musicians on the TV successful? Are these low IQ senior year university students successful for graduating? What is a success after all?

This question bugged my mind for long, since elementary school, for a deep desire to be successful in life. Back then, my passion and dreams were not based in the real world, rather in the ‘perfect’ image of the world in the mind. My tomorrow was obscured with the fight of the existing world and the fancy dream path I wanted to take. When the going got tough, I felt a loser. This was a constant question: ” am I successful, yet? ” You probably also wanted to figure out if you are successful or not.

After finishing reading this article you will never doubt and ask ” am I successful? ” again.

When your read this article I want you to understand that life is about potential. Even though your past matters what count is how you decide to live your future.

So, am I successful?Are you successful?

Think of success as multidimensional concept rather than cause and effect. It has various shape and form and it definitely is not unidimensional. To understand success is to understand something that changes it self every time you see it. Because after all, it is the people that determine success. For the sake of simplicity, let’s define success based on the observer.

So, success has three layers where it is defined or achieved.

The first layer is the wider layer, that is success in the eyes of the general society.

This is how society defines your achievement. Success, after all, is relative. Passing classes or going to school is enough on this layer. Starting a job and feeding a family makes you a success in society. They call you a good citizen of society or something. The people you barely know attend your wedding, they talk about the suit and the makeup and the ceremony with great delight.

Most people you know, probably 80%,are classified in this group.People in this level of success do what is required: they learn, they get jobs, they marry and have children. They work hard and they don’t go to sleep without food. Unless you are a stoner or drunk, wasting time idle, you are successful. After all, if society thinks you as successful, you are successful.

So, are you successful? If you answered no, leave this post and go to the end of this post to learn how to become successful in this layer, if yes continue reading.

Second layer: the acquaintance layer

This is more critical than the general massei opinion of success. You cannot live a mediocre life at this stage. You get things done and you don’t live to pass through the weekdays.

This layer is more real because your success is determined with people who have direct or indirect authority upon you. Passing from class to class does not impress parents like it impressed the society on the first layer. You should be able to get a grade that could compensate the expenses parents put out on you. Feeding family or being on time at home does not count here. You should be able to give attention to details, practically care for your family.

How many people you know have a beautiful but disfunctional family ? How many graduates you know who passed with struggled to pass through the years?

This layer is a practical, and quality layer.

Only a few people, probably 25%, are successful in this layer.

So are you successful? Is your success quality success? If no, go to the end of this post to learn how to become successful in each layer, how you can make your life a quality life. If yes, continue reading. I will show you another higher layer.

The third layer is the personal layer.

The third layer is for the dreamers. It is for the world changers. It is for those who are obsessed to be unique, to be more than the average. This layer is called the self-layer. Not more than 5% of people you know are in this layer. This layer is not judged based on what the society says or what the close ones want, but with what the self want. Here, achievement is criticized based on purpose and potential.

When you are in this stage of development, you care less for what others value, but you care more about what your dream values. The only thing that makes you happy is achieveing your high standard. Graduation does not overwhelm you because you have higher goal in life. You don’t party all night for a single success of on a project(even if celebrating your success is necessary) because you see life in the bigger vision.

Therefore, this layer is not about the ordinary or the quality, it is about value. Have you heard the saying “seek not to be a person of success but a person of value ” ?

On how to become successful

If you know on which success layer you are on, it is easy to understand how to improve your situation.

Here, I will show you how to become successful based on your current success status.

To be successful, in the society layers, you don’t necessarily have to work that hard. You only have to cooperate with the norm. Go to school, respect others, finish home work on time, have friends, get a job, have a family: live the norm. That is enough. Quality of life is not that high here. Life is pretty much easy. How to become successful in this layer is by understanding the norm and by living it.

If you are not satisfied the first stage, it is time to grow. In the second layer, you can’t just be a husband, you have to be a lover; you can’t just be a student, you should excel; you can’t be a boss, you should be a leader. You have to buy flowers, you should say ” I love you” . When you can get above c, passing with D does not work here.

People in this layer of success know that they are accountable for their deeds, they learn and put their knowledge in to action.

Remember, life is celebration in the first layer. But it is a work in this layer. Live life to the fullest.

Success in the third layer is harder. You should be able to work harder and smarter. People in this layer live their life purpose. Life here has no specific worldly measure. The person himself measures the success with his/her own guidelines. For example, a doctor could become a teacher on weekends. An inventor like Steve Wozniak could become an elementary school teacher. This is up to the mind of the actor. This is what makes one to live for someting and leave their mark.

How you become successful in this layer is by finding your purpose , living that purpose and by influencing the world.

What do you think? On which layer of success are you in? Comment.

change yourself, goals, habits, meaning of life, passion, PurposeAugust 8, 2017

what is the point of life? How to understand life to be successful

We have all asked same question at least once in our lives. What is the point of life? What is the point of all this. Especially this generation is weak and whiny always asking “what is the point of education, what is the point of having a girlfriend. What is the point of me involving when others can do it better?”

We prefer sleeping and wishing than working. Most of the “what is the point”questions are not asked from the point of getting answers but from getting despaired. Many are tired of the way in their head before getting started on the first step.

Why do people ask what is the point of life? The misunderstanding.

Before talking about what the point of life is ,it is necessary to talk about why we question the worth of living.

1-Religion is misunderstood.

Most children brought up with relation have the idea of the temporary world. They later ask “what is the point of life” when the world is very temporary and our struggle are futile. Why should I have to work this hard and why should I solve a problem of a world that passes like a wind. Religion is misunderstood because of ignorant teachers and ignorant us.

Most religious revolutionists have made an impact in the world. They have developed their own way to interact with the world so that the people could benefit from it. They live their life with their own standards and they worked their things off and made a change. But their ways are confusion for the rest.

2-Hard work is left out.

People this days get prize for any think, worst actor of the year, worst student of the year and more. Students get prize for not coming to class and for being lazy. What is the point becoming a way out of hard work? Our visions and our deeds are left and right. We became a generation of story tellers and not doers. We have nothing to show for our life but we have a lot of images on our phones. So, if you want to easily answer what is the point of life, then you should embrace hard work.

3-The internet motivation of life is people jumping off mountains in parachute and jumping on trampoline.

This is considered to be living the life you want in this age. What is the point of life. “I have to live a life the way I like.” Believe me we all need to live that that jumping and falling 365 days a year. But we have something to do. we have something we should do that is much harder than jumping off a cliff. That is called purpose.

4-Schools become a breeding compound for useless habits.

The western education does not solve a social and economic problem the student will have after school. They are usually theories and useless facts that not one benefit from, except to win arguments. Knowing about Mitochondria only helped these who joined zoology or related field. The rest of us have no idea why we wasted their time learning about it. Our schools teach about electric current where the students could not even fix their room bulb. The excessive parties and immorality kills the morals of students. Most are confused before asking what is the point.

5-Parents have no idea how to raise a child.

A primitive child is raised as cruel as possible to teach him the cruelty of the outside world. A single mistake could land him or her in a lion cage. The parents should be as specific as possible to keep their families alive. This is not the case today. But still the world is full of dangers and every activity needs struggle and effort. The parents are not example for children. They don’t tell them how to live life better. Most parents are obsessed with their personal life. One author said most boys are not masculine because they have grown without fathers, in mother’s hands. No one is there to tell them what the point is of life.

6-The world is pretending to be perfect.

The makeup celebrities, the perfect life, the pretentious society all seems to be on a perfect place where individuals are suffering from mediocre life. Without further study, the world seems to be perfect. The people we know have perfect mirage, perfect body, perfect skin, until we experiment closely. Reality and what it looks like are different. Usually despair of not having the perfect thing makes us ask what is the point of life , I am not that perfect.

So, what is the point of life. To say the least, I believe, life has no point. This is accidental life for bible. Whatever you do,surely, you will pass away. It is like living for a while. A person paints and decorate its house even though they don’t know how long they live in it. What matters is not how long you live, what matter is how you live.

When trump was bankrupted again, the bank promised to give him some money but on one contingency, if he stops his luxurious life that costs him a great bunch of the money. But he refused, he refused even under bankruptcy.

Here are 4 things to do to figure out ” what is the point of life .”

1-Work is the primary point of the world.

Without work, you are nothing. Success and happiness are in achievement from work. You can try it yourself. Live a week without work on you couch, you will get bored. And you will ask what is the point of life. The one thing that Adam was told to do was cultivate. In other words, work. Once you find your purpose, what makes you intrinsically happy, then you have to work your things off to fulfil your vision.

2-Question everything.

Don’t accept everything written and published. Start from this article. The point is not having fun but to be fulfilled and help others. To care for yourself and care for one another. You should know that life on earth is not the end. It can’t be. Our soul is superior than our flesh that is the bag, the container.

but test them all; hold on to what is good, 1 Thessalonians 5:21

No one have the full answer, you should question yourself.

3-Take care of others opinion.

The schools are becoming business places. And parent don’t care until you behave. You can watch TV for hours or drink and nude dance like we have seen in some schools, the teachers don’t care much. What is the point is a wise man question here? The point is to question that as well. You could be the idealist that question everything.

4-The world is pretentious.

The ads are fake. The pretty face is makeup. The perfect body figure is because of the cloths. The height is from the extra sole. Don’t blindly follow the perfect image of this pretentious world. You are better off with your own ideas and day dreams.

What is the point of life is appropriate question, but without perfect answer. For one to answer this question, one has to leave this pretentious, false world and has to question and live life itself.

change yourself, habits, passion, Purpose, success, time managementJuly 30, 2017

This is your life? Whose life are you living?

Many people suffer of losing the game for the unknown. For this they live a life they don’t want to live, to only keep themselves on the edge without falling. The reality is most people are living what is not their dreams. They are living a life that could make money or a life that only gets them an applause. Many couples spent years and years in abusive relationships before realizing it’s too late. Many people work on jobs they don’t like to survive their family. The funny part is most get used to it, even if they are worrying each day. They give birth for more kids, they marry people they don’t like hoping to share their sorrow.

The question at the end of the day is whose card are you playing? If the things you are doing are not in your life book, then, it is probable that you will lose the lost battle for real.

I have thought about games in life some months before. I was in a deep worry for someone whose life was a living misery. His dysfunctional relationship with a dysfunctional woman was a viral disease for the surrounding. His worry makes us live in a deep pit where is hard to leave without giving them a solution. The game was not invented or was not a creative one. It was simply a kind that I despised when I grow.

The process took a lot of money, lots of entry and sleepless nights. Their worry and kid character created a new scenario and new game for everyone around them. And the process affected everyone around.

Months after a funny thing happened. Most of the people around them was already broke trying to lull them in to peace. And everyone forgotten their life thinking these peoples less life.

And when everything was over and when the chaos was finalized for once and for all, everyone was on the field. Thinking what am I doing there.

The actors had left the field making it barren land. They went on with their life that seemed better. They never blinked twice to break the friendship. The friends were the losers in the relationship after all. For this they received lashes from themselves.

You probably have to ask yourself who is the magician in your life. Who is the one to ask it this you card? If you can’t answer this question, you should probably have to continue reading. I will show the way to identify who has the card.

1-You find yourself in other’s life.

If you continuously find yourself cooking other’s dinner you should watch out. I was a huge fan of entering other’s yogurts, like that fly. I intervened to help anyone whom I think needed a help. As the story above is written, at the same time I find myself being demanded more. And sometimes it feels I am too much there and I don’t have life myself. I read advice from elderly people hat, helping others is good but you can’t forget that they have their own destiny and you don’t have to interfere in their destiny without being asked.

2-You are confused and following the wrong pedestrian.

Have you noticed a stray dog on a street? They follow everyone they see until that person looks back and freaks out and bash them off. If you feel your life is following then you should watch out. following leaders is good for most people out there. But following others without no purpose at heart is dangerous. When the leader changes mind, you should do too. This is your life , create something of it.

3-You have no map of the future.

This is your life, living your life but caught up with the dream of the past. If you don’t have the general picture of what you want to be or if you don’t have a purpose in life then you are living off the leftovers. It is like the mouse who asked for a single wheat seed in front of her, when she is offered the whole wheat in the storage. If you cannot at least see the glitter afar from today, then you are surviving.

This is your life

If at least two of the above points express your current situation, then may be someone is having the card or there is a huge probability that anyone can manipulate you or use you for the fulfilment of their purpose. They can show you the magic in the way that fits. They can flip the card or even cancel the show. If you feel you have no control in life, you should get up from this screen and do something about it. As we always say, the key to your life is in your own hands.

This is your life. Live it for yourself first.

Career, meaning of life, passion, Purpose, successJuly 27, 2017

Figuring out who you are in easy steps without much worry and time

Figuring out who you are is a hard task. These day it seems that we are delusional with the busyness of the world and we are lost in it. It is like being lost in the storm. The problem is not with being lost the problem is in being lost in it but the problem is we are lost without second taught out our lives. The storm will come and go on its own time. No matter what we wish. It hast its own life, its own age and its own show. The Melancholy is our struggle to make sense out of it. In fact, we are lost in it, looking its temporal presence around us, its gracious thunders and hurricanes.

The way to figure out self is to think and to have time to think. If you’re caught up in the chaos of the world and trying to make sense out of the thunders and the storms then you lose.

1-The first thing I realized after long struggle with information overload is no to read or listen or learn any more, more than I do things.

Everything you do should be equivalent to everything you know. You cannot figure out your purpose without facing challenges. Reading is good but experience is better.

Surprisingly, most people who don’t read much are the visible actors of our day to day life.They dare to put their toes in to the water to test the water. They test the unknown without much information. And no matter how good or bad, they experience the result. Next time you find your self trying to figure out who you are with excess information , stop and look back to your self. The answer is in you. the information is only guidance.

2-Second. Listening your guts is the way to progress.

The problems I identified in my life recently are the things my guts used to tell me to do without mentioning that they were things I had to do. But procrastination and other related problems limited my engagement from doing. When your guts tell you to do something, believe me do that. Just write them down and do that. If you have to visit a long-lost friend, and you are told repetitively to do, then put what every you are doing, go and see your friend. If you are thinking to know about your car motor, or to start gym, then start them now. May be your mind is telling you to become stronger, to be more of a human. No overthinking, just doing.

3- Third, look into yourself.

EBay advises to look back to your house to find something to sell. To find yourself, look back to yourself. You are who you are. You are not who you are going to be. Look back to yourself, question yourself, question your ways.

4- Forget other’s opinion if you want to make a difference.

People are usually pretentious. They pretend to be what they are not. Three things, people talk in terms of their context, their limited experience and their current emotional state. This means their comments change based on these three points. Second people comment on your appearance and your efforts, just for the sake of commenting. My work connects me with clients. Third, people only see your cover. No one knows your inside. Listen to opinions, but don’t over salivate on them.

5-Don’t listen to your mind telling you that you are not yet there to figure out your purpose.

Doing something takes a lot of energy. Your mind it constantly distracting you from investing your energy. That is the reason you procrastinate. You keep reading, having experiences until one day you realize that no matter how much you keep reading you are not there yet. Life should be about maximizing the knowledge you already have and improving on it.

6-Finally, free mind and stillness have the answer.

It is not about yoga or religion. It is about having time with the heart and with the mind. To listen to yourself, you should stop listening to the world. The world talks and it talks in terms of its positions. These days opinions are every there. Everyone has one. If you have time for long with yourself you will easily understand the world, its ways and your role in it. If you see any region leader or any successful person, you will notice the made time for themselves to understand their life, their purpose and their destiny.

Here I will write my experience of figuring out who I am.

1-How you see your self is everything.

Don’t underestimate yourself. You are human. You are the best thing that happens to earth. No matter what others tell you, no matter how you draw yourself to be, you are still the greatest creation. Don’t see this as a lie or movement to support your self-confidence. Or nothing like fake it until you make it. I could be the most critical person you could find. I could tell you that you are a zebra if you are. Now, I will tell you again if you are, of course if you are human being, don’t discourage yourself. You are great. The difference is what you make out of your greatness. Even diamonds lose visual value if lost in valueless places. But you should know once they are found they gain their value again.

2- Knowing strength and weakness is the first step.

Veyner chuk on his book, talks about DNA. DNA is who you are, your strength. If no one can do as you can do on something that you like then do that. But before that you should note your strength and your weakness.

3- How do you want to be seen few years from now?

Most successful people ask what do I want to be after 10 years. Ask yourself, what do I want to be when it is all set and done. As the person said, you have no control on your emotion, but you have control on your actions. Based on what you want to be do that.

4-What have you done for long without realizing you are doing that.

For me, for example, started reading self-help books since 12. I dint know why I like them. I wanted to be successful and big without even knowing what is to be successful or big. Some of you may wanted to be an astronaut for long. Some of you a dancer…you name it.

Career, meaning of life, passion, PurposeJuly 24, 2017

11 things you should know to find your purpose in the world

Your purpose,

Here are 11 things you should know for discovering and cultivating your deepest purpose as a human being.

1- Deepest purpose comes in stillness.

You can’t understand life in a chaos. As some eastern religions teach you can understand some things by being still, out of present, meditating on a small thing.

2- Change the pattern of life to find your purpose

The day to day life gives you a homework. You don’t have time to envision your life and find your purpose. If you are lucky you have a job that you can take off a day or two or more. If you don’t use your weekends. Change your location, change your actions every time for the next two days, fast, pray and rethink your purpose.

3- Your purpose does not change but your mind does.

Some authors like…the way of the superior man…said your mind wanders, moody based on your experience. Once you like something and other times you hate it or you get bored of it. In any case your purpose still awaits to be unveiled.

4- Finding and working on your purpose pays off.

Some people work for money and lose their purpose for materials. Others live for a purpose for long, they perfect it or recreate something though it and make money for life, even though it could be late.

5- Others usually don’t like it when you live your purpose.

When you live your purpose, you have to have your own rules that negates other’s rules. You are different and unique in some ways. You have a goal that you follow and you tend to forget being a friend for all. People usually hate you for it since you show them their unfulfilled purpose. Others hate you because they will see you leave in the middle of wasted time. People judge you because they see you through their life. Look in history you can’t find anyone who is not ridiculed for their ideas.

6- At the end of the day your purpose will be accepted.

Ideas are scary, especially when you are the one who have them. If you fear the status quo, you will die with it. If you are strong enough to take risk of the consequences then you speak it and take whatever comes. Many are pushed away, killed for their ideas and belief. It is the weak responsibility to display congruity through violence. The smart shape the idea and the rest execute it. Live your purpose even though you are persecuted for it. At the end, probably after you passed away, you will be remembered for your contribution. That will be your legacy.

7- It takes time.

purpose takes cultivation. It needs continuous growth before seeing its results. It took Beethoven 4 years for its genius masterpiece and Jesus 30 years to teach and have followers and Einstein many years to write his papers. The result of purpose is seen out of unseen practices and studies. What you have inside is seen on outside. Perfecting something takes time. Don’t rush through life. Don’t look for shortcuts in life. Take the hardest way out. You won’t regret it.

8- Read books.

People live based on experience. And experiences are limited. If you live on leftovers of your limited perspectives then you lost a lot. You should see far from the shore. There is land that has beautiful trees, sunny sky and fertile land. With reading you change your world fast. You get perspective of many authors. For some of you reading is a habit. If it is then you should take care of information overload. Some people read as an addiction. When it becomes an addiction, then it gives you a constant check point where you reflect on yourself but you can’t change that fact for you don’t have the time and the space in your mind. If you know your purpose, then you are lucky already. Leave this pc and go live it.

9- If you find your purpose then you are lucky.

This means you found something that you live for 24 hours a day. It is something that you could work for, for free. You are unique here. You are one of the few out there in the world. If you’re in this category, you should start producing something that could be seen and useful. Thinking and reading, contemplating ideas is good, but your purpose is best expressed though action. Have an idea or a project and go do it, no matter how small or useless it seems and learn from it.

10- You have the right to change your destiny.

I don’t believe we are destined to some written destiny. We can choose our life where we live, whom we marry and more. Adam and eve changed their face by not respecting the commandment they got. Criminals change their destiny by breaking the rules. The scientist says we can’t say the rat is dead or not dead until it eats or pass the poisoned food. You have minimum of two options in any situation : to speak or to silence; to be happy or to be sad. You can live your purpose or live your night mare. It is up to you.

11- Money is the least of things to measure worth of your purpose.

You are wrong if you think your highly paid friend is living better than you in his purpose. Money doesn’t measure purpose. There are millions of people who hate their jobs regardless of the payment. I remember times I wanted to run away even having an attractive position and good salary. These riches do not reflect your purpose. Don’t measure yourself or your purpose against material gains.