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Life has no meaning: 4 ways to make a meaning in life to live a grand life

life has no meaning _grandself”Life has no meaning.”

That is a great leap for a layman to define the whole in four words. What is life anyways and what is meaning? How do you identify when something has no meaning?

Well that needs some scientific explanation. But that is irrelevant to this article.

I speak in terms of experience, only in terms of the limited understanding that we all have, but probably won’t use anyways.

My empirical engagement in life suggested that we make a meaning in the life. Our decisions, our actions and our interactions make the smaller images that we individually want to see in the world possibly without a grand comprehension of the big image.

So, how do we make meaning in life in the world that has no meaning.

1-We live to experience and through the experience.

What is life for you? List the things that makes you believe that you have life or the things that makes a meaning in your life. These meanings are probably your experiences. For example, your personal meaning for life is to make others happy. And making happy involves your love life, your family life or your work life. It is all about your experiences and your engagement in the world.

What you do every day makes the meaning in your life. My life meaning and yours is different in shape and form.

A meaning of life for some is dark and dangerous. For others, it is a prison to escape. For some it is all about the short-term happiness no matter the consequences.

I can’t tell you about the experience that you should enjoy. It is in fact true that our life is in congruent with that we call moral or immoral. Live your life in the moral side, without affecting the world negatively.

Life has no meaning; we make meaning through the experience. Live to the fullest of what you can and what you have. Identify things that you want to do based on your experiences and do them.

2-Life has no meaning. Life is living now.

Tomorrow or yesterday are out of our natural control. No matter what quantum physics or others teach, the reality is we don’t know what happens within an hour. The only true control you have is on now. You can continue reading this text or you can escape it. You can shout at the very moment or you can sit still. Or you can do it as long as the conscious agrees.

If now is the time, why not enjoy now?

Enjoy each moment. Refuse to live a second of mediocrity. Say no if it does not fit you no matter the risk.

Recently I had a discussion with a group of stake holders for some project. In fact some were smart people from different parts of the world. In the middle of the meeting, I noticed that most of the things discussed were not useful for the project in anyway. It was not useful for me nor was it satisfying the implementation of the project. Guess what, I cut the meeting and asked the boss to conclude so that I could leave.

I decided not to waste time on something that don’t see fit my limited time.

And this decision doesn’t go without risk. I had lost friendship from some and others hated my bold move.

No matter how it turns out live the life you enjoy.

3-Life has no meaning. We make meaning though purpose.

To make a life meaning, always think about your purpose. What is that one things that bugs you to do. It could be so small that it makes others doubt you. Do these make a meaning to your life. Live them as fast as possible before your age runs out.

I believe discovering your purpose could take time. Instead of thinking “my purpose is to care for the poor,” Why don’t you go out and start caring for the poor? Do that for a year and not your experience. And decide if you truly want to do that.

Everyone has one thing that they will be known with. Some are drunk others are inventors. It depends on your dedication on your purpose. You might know record breaking athletes with good business skills. After 100 years people remember their records not the money they make.

Life has no meaning. Your make your meaning through your purpose.

4- life has no meaning. The meaning is individual.

Life is like opinion. Your live it or you hate it, you are right.

“It is beautiful.” Yes and no. There is no definite answer. It is the Individual that makes meaning.

Then how do you make your meaning? How do you define your life at this very moment?

In order to define the meaning of your life, define what you want it to be in 10 years. How do you want to live life, how do you want to be seen what problems you want to solve? If you answer this question. You can define your life. and the meaning comes in the very moment when you live that big picture.

A day in athlete’s life is not on a sofa but your’s could be. It is about the purpose and what you are willing to do.

Life has no meaning. You make the meaning through your experience. This means your experience makes the meaning and not otherwise.

 

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I hate my life. 10 things people that hate their life do.

“I hate my life”, she said trying to catch my attention. “I hate my life, I slid my harms many times to trying to end it but I am still here. They say what you hate follows you. Life follows me.” Here voice was shaky and her eyes never leave gazing the floor. “Life is hard!”, her tears precedes her.

Love and hate are two different emotions packed in same bag. They are the fabrication of the wobbling mind and crazy days.

I once heard of story of a hard working individual that life got him the wrong way. On the morning moments after that he read his wife’s divorce note on the kitchen counter, he learnt he was let go at the job. “I hate my life.” he was crying when return to this home with his office stuff. He picked up the phone to inform his family about the situation to share the over bearing load.

The family was rejoicing and told him they have a great news and he won the lottery that he bought weeks before. He switch happy with in second. He noticed how lucky he was and how life made everything good at last and he loved his life again. He run to his car to celebrate with family and soon to learn that all was a set up and he doesn’t won the lottery.

The moral of the story is happy and sad are there is side you. what matter is how you want to see events that occur in life. “The day is boring” is not ultimate reality. It is what your mind feels on the day. “I hate my job” is personal opinion that reflects your interaction with the job or work place or employees. It does not reflect a fact.

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The interpretation of life is personal. What is good is not good. It is only good for us. What is beautiful is not beautiful it is beautiful for us. “I hate my life” is a personal choice of decision.

So, if the above is true, then ” I hate my life ” is only a false preconception of reality.

Here are things that people that hate their life do and people who love their life do.

1-People who hate life say “I hate love.”

People who hates life has only one word “i hate life.” They complain a lot. hey are not satisfied no mater how events turn out.

People who love life say “I love life” no matter life treated them. Life cannot be always perfect. There are ups and downs.Saying positive is necessary. Without this strength waiting for tomorrow is harder. The only thing that help us peruse tomorrow is hope. And hate does not have hope. Hate only gets one as far as hates gets them: despair.

2-people who hate life don’t progress. They sit still and don’t change.

People who love life dare to change. Change is not an option for them. Change is a tool to getting better and better in loving a life. They know that with change there is satisfaction and with satisfaction there is love and with love there is life.

3-people who hate life don’t care about dangers.

They could run in to danger at any moment and they don’t care much. I once read a book about a testimony of soldier in battle field. He at one moment noticed how one of his friends was really strong and confident while walking on a ground with large number of grenades. He once asked him how he was so confident about his life. The soldier then replied saying that it is not he is confident, it is he hates his life.

People who love life loves themselves. They don’t allow a single scratch on their flesh and on their spirit.

4-people who hate life hate their body.

People knowingly and unknowingly hate their life lose a concern for their body. They eat what is available and not what is useful. They do not care about their health and they get obese or super thin. They don’t get shower and they don’t groom well.

People who love life are always on spot. They change cloths, they take showers on time. They keep their teeth healthy and especially their internal organs. They respect life then they respect their body. They care about their sexual health and about their mental health.

5-people who hate life live with people who hate life.

They say you are the average of your 5 close people. If you live with the hater you become one. If stay with the smart you become smart, at least you will learn the way to smart. East Africans has a quote, “a goat who befriended a donkey, returns home learning farting.” Your day will define you.

People who love life, carefully choose with whom they spent their day with. They are discriminatory. They don’t allow losers to ruin their day. They don’t care what others think of their selective behaviour. They respect their intuition more than people’s opinions.

6-people who hate their life hate their jobs, their family.

It is sometimes psychological. People despise life and they start drinking. They get depressed. They start developing a negative feeling towards necessary things in life. they act weird in serious conditions. They act crazy with family. They nag. They portray their non-satisfaction on their family. This in turn leads to breakups and distraction.

People who love life, love others, they care for their family. They love what they do. If they don’t love it, they don’t blame it on life. they know life is a progress. And they will change it. They will get that degree at evening class and get raises. They work hard and get noticed at office. They study hard and get good grades. If they hate her wife’s weight, they don’t despise her or insult her, they simply work to change that.

7-people who hate life live discriminated life.

They get depressed and stay away from public, weeping and complaining, only to go deep in to stress. They don’t like talking with others as they developed hate to people: they are the source of problems. Their favourite quote is “I hate my life.”

People who love life, love people. They know people are the source of happiness in life they respect others. They respect opinions. They live to serve because they know the value of life. They don’t spend the day alone depressed when they can spend it with people they love.

8-people who hate life don’t see a future.

They only live in the past fearing the future. Today is absent mark in the present world. The fear of the past limits the hope of tomorrow.

People who love life know their treasure is in tomorrow no matter how today looks like . Their riches and life grows bigger and bigger with time. And Their limited resources are not measure with today’s worth rather with tomorrow’s progress.

Summary

life is to beloved. Many people say I hate my life. This is common. Life is something to be appreciated and to be progressed through. Without this, life is not well lived. People who hate their life don’t change. They stay same for years. They don’t respect their body, they don’t love their family, they hate others, they live among life haters and they have no clear image of the future.

People who loves life don’t complain. They do whatever is necessary to get back in life. They don’t mind other’s opinions as they care about their own assumptions. They care for others; love their health and are careful of what they eat.  They love life.

 

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what to do when life is easy

life is easy_image‘’I will do It tomorrow’’ is a satisfied man’s sorrow. It is the way of compensating the unsatisfied heart’s desire to get away from action. We want to change but we say we will change tomorrow. We want to do it later or we want to do it as soon as we finished  that a talk show we are watching. Life is indeed a path of procrastination.

When this life gets in to trouble everything becomes a trap. Days are daydreams of with foggy sky and gloomy light.

We all have these days of depression. We wanted to liberate ourselves from it but for avail. Let me share you a story here.

(For the sake of the story let the person stays anonymous.)

Life was easier, like living without will, for the satisfaction of the immediate. He lived his whole life with deep concern and purpose to satisfy. But that time was really different. He was no longer a slave to his ambitions. He did whatever he wanted. This all was good until one day a girl happened in his life. Her meek approach led him in to the trap of infatuation. Later he developed attraction for her. Her nagging behaviour and his fear of violating his values led him in to deeper trap.

His happy days were over within months and his days were deteriorating each day. With the load of others, who share a story with him, of their unsatisfactory life, became his day. His habit changed and he started drinking. His smiling lips no more could not cover his heart’s shout for a different life when his paranoia made him believe to have caught some STD. And he believed the girl was somewhat pregnant. His life became a living hell.

While standing in anxiety in his office, on morning,  his life flashed in front of him. His heart started beating, he was literally shaking. He cried his eyes off and prayed for the first time in years.

He was reminded of the normal life, how beautiful life was, he appreciated it. “I wish he said, I wish I get second chance in life and be free of the STD and the girl he no longer loves is not pregnant.” The peer pressure of the society made him fear of the consequences of these events.

He said crying, “God, if you give me a second chance in life, I would live my life like lion, I would not be afraid of failure, I will not care what people will say of me. I will live for one purpose and that is the purpose that I am created for. I will get marred as soon and love my wife and my children. Like the few did, I will live to be remembered.” After mummers of regret and beg, he stood up to continue his depressed life.

Months passed and one day he had to do it. He had to break his fears and get tested. And it was OK. He is fine. And she was not even capable of getting pregnant for health issues.

He stood there ,infront of the clinic, feeling relaxed. The sky was bluer and the wind was sharp. He took taxi back to his job place. And returned to his normal life.

Months passed again,when life is easy, his promise was soon forgotten. He even didn’t try to change. He just left everything there and become the previous person.

What to do when things get normal and life is easy.

Life is difficult for those who take risks.

These who don’t take risks live easy life. Life is easy. They live without danger. This is similar to the primitive society. Those who are fearful will stay in the cave all day, avoiding danger. Others who dare to explore, surely will get in danger. They encounter wild animals. Some fail form cliff. Others die of hunger and disease.

Dangerous situation makes you stronger, if you use them wisely. These are ways of appreciating the good. Because without the dark, one cannot appreciate the light.  Because light is sometimes boring.  This is similar in social situation, if you are always available then you become normal. And others hate normal. When you say no. then your yes is a great gift. The negative is a reason to appreciate the positive.

When you are in the problem, it is better not to cry and go to sleep. Instead write your emotions down.

Because emotions pass but emotions in writing don’t pass. You will be reminded of the emotions on the better times. Then write your ambitions, your exceptions, your goals when you still are in the bad time. When life is easy again, you will read them and understand what to do without being emotional.

Next solve the problem.

When things get normal, read them back. read everything you have written. And devise a plan on how to achieve them. Let me tell you what to do when life is easy.

1-First, is changing practices.

Your habits, day-to-day activities are norms, for you to change, you have to break habit. You have to device your own way of living. You should break pattern, go out of the city, or chance place of sleep. Hang out with different people. This will change your perspective and emotions. As soon as when life is easy, think how you can change your daily habits.

2-stay with people you admire.

Learning is faster when you be with achievers. These are your coaches for free. You learn from their lives. After all they say, ‘’you are the average of five people in your life. ‘’ When life is easy or even when you are in the problem remember who has better friend in them and how can you repay them for what they have done to you.

3-pray.

Prayer is a way of communicating your desire with the God you don’t know. It is the way of sharing hearts feeling. You don’t do it with other being. Prayer is a form of mediation. You don’t lie when praying since you believe you pray to god, who knows everything. Prayer opens the sky. It will help you see afar from the seen.

When the going gets tough people gets frustrated. The promise to change when the chance presents its self. But when life is easy and the time comes of the freedom, they don’t even remember their words. To become your dream on the time of normal your pattern breaking, people around you and your prayer and noting of the movement changes life.

 

 

 

 

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Three layers of success and how to become successful in each.

How to become successful is a question in everyone’s mind. Success is one’s way of showing potential fulfilled. It could be expressed through achievement.

Who is successful then? Are these tattooed, drug induced gang musicians on the TV successful? Are these low IQ senior year university students being successful? What is success after all?

This question bugged my mind when I was an elementary shoot student, with a deep desire of being prominent, and on top. My passion and dreams were not based on the real world, rather on the scale wired by my mind. My tomorrow was obscured with the fight of the existing world and the fancy dream path I wanted to take.

Success as a whole is achieving a potential. It is producing something useful with definite purpose.

So, success has three layers where it is defined or achieved.

The first layer is the wider layer, that is success in the eyes of the general society.

This is what the society defines your success. Passing classes or going to school is enough on this layer. Starting a job and feeding a family makes you a success in the society. They call you a good citizen of the society or something.  This is the first step to real success in life. Most of the society is classified in this group.

After this is the second layer, a layer of the’ ’close ones’’.

This are more critical than the general mass. You cannot live a mediocre life in this stage. At least you should pretend to get things done or the close ones will make you do that. Passing from class to class does not impress parents any more. You should be able to get a grade that could compensate the expenses parents put out for you.

Feeding family or being on time at home does not count here. You should be able to give attention to details, practically care for your family. This is more of a practice layer. This age is more of the more successful. This stage is enough for most to be on the group of the successful.  Most of the rest of the society level success lives in this layer.

The their layer is the personal layer.

The third layer is for the dreamers. It is for the world changers. It is for those who are obsessed to be unique, to be more than the average. This layer is the self-layer. This layer is not judged based on what the society says or what the close ones want, but with what the self-want. Here achievement is criticized based on purpose, potential.

When you are in this stage of development, you care less for what others value, but you care more about what your dream values. The only thing that makes you happy is achieve of your high standard. Graduation does not make you fantasize because you have higher goal in life. You don’t party all night for a single success of a project because you see life in the bigger vision. This one is part of the big, that is yet to achieved. How to become successful is about how to live purposeful life.

How to become successful _grand selfThe way on how to become successful

If you know which success layer is comfortable enough for you, read the next paragraphs. They will give you the way to be successful in each layer.

To be successful, in the society layers, you don’t necessarily have to work that hard. You only have to cooperate with the norm. Go to school, respect others, finish home work on time, be normal, have friends, get a job, have a family. That is enough. If you have no more wish in life, then stay here. Quality of life is not that high here but life is pretty much easy. How to become successful in this layer is by understanding the norm and by living it.

If you are not satisfied the first stage, it is time to grow. In this stage, you can’t just be a husband, you have to be a lover, you have to show love, you have to be on time for kids show. You have to buy flowers, say I love you every time. When you have to get above c, passing with D does not work here. In addition ,you are accountable for your deeds, and your deeds should consider what others want and what the situation demands.

Remember, marriage is celebration in the first layer. But it is a work in this layer. If you live in the first layer, marrying a living a crap life is good enough for you. But not in this layer.

Success in the third layer is harder. You should be able to work harder and smarter. You should live what you do and do it.  Life here has no specific worldly measure. The person himself measure the success with his/her own guidelines.

For example, a doctor could become a teacher on weekends. An inventor like Steve Wozniak could become an elementary school teacher. This is up to the mind of the actor. This is what makes one to live for. Her mother’s advice is less useful, as the things that come to the person are insane. How to become successful in this stage is more than the trend , it is about purpose and satisfaction.

Read more: 10 things you should know about purpose

So, to be successful working hard is not enough. How to be successful needs at least 5 major steps.

1-  Finding purpose.

To arrive at the third level of success, on should have a pure form of guide in a form of purpose. This is something that we give value for and wish we become one. This is the dream. If you find what makes you happy, the rest is ready.

read more: finding your purpose

2-      Plan long term.

If you don’t know where you going, you don’t know when you are there. If you don’t have a long-term plan for your success life becomes like that mouse. Some one once asked a mouse what it needs to own from all the container but eh mouse replied “Just give me that”, pointing on one wheat seed on the floor.If you can’t see the big picture, then the lane for your success runs out.

3-      Execute.

Production in touchable form is the only thing between success and failure. When you do things in tangible form, then you have something to show for your efforts.

4-      Progress.

When you do things continuously no matter how others accept them, they become the norm. he world will give you a different way of understanding Once they notice it that way. The world sometimes criticize. What you have to do is to progress a make things easier.

5-      Aim high.

Aiming for low is a loser’s way of becoming successful. If the bar is high, you don’t have to compete in it. You have to rise above the corpse of the norm.

 

What do you think? On which layer of success are you in? Comment.