habits

The solution to the struggle to change habits  

Struggle to change habits

Habits could be the best things that could define a person. Habits gives one the tools to express one self and to learn skills that would not possible without interest and without payment. But habits sometimes become a set up for failure. Some habits are dangerous.

Many people are wired for failure because of the habits that they live with. Someone used to say to me that addicts promise never to drink again every morning, probably due to the hang over or the position they find themselves in. But every night they find themselves circling around at the neighbourhood in lack of vision and decision.

I recently find myself in same situations. Not about addictions or that matter but in daily life itself. Some of the things, like driving to work, working, lunch time, all are habits formed through out long time. Some of us do that unconsciously. Every evening, I plan never to do the routine since the next day, since i felt it was hurting me in life, and I find myself doing the routine the next morning. I do things that i don’t want and seems that i have no power over it.

Then I discovered why we are not firm with our plans and why we struggle to change habits.

1-Our plans are based on emotions.

Emotions are like, “I am great, I can do it” stuff that is irrelevant to the overall vision. We only do it because of some inspiration we have every time and then. They say everyone wants to become a marathon runner at times of Olympics. Lack of follow through is due to short span emotions that does not fulfil the life purpose and current situations. Don’t plan to never go to some place only because you had disagreement with someone.

Do you know people who get hyper after watching TV show they like or after listening inspiring story? Emotion are good but sometimes destructive. Looking things objectively is often good. One reason for the Struggle to change habits is believing emotions more than reality.

2-We don’t have something else to replace the previous habits.

When you decide never to repeat your tasks, then you should see in detail what to do instead. For the drunk never to drink, they should plan to do something else on that specific time. Why not see friends each day of the week and sleep over there? If you don’t plan on what to do instead, surely the mind picks the best thing to do for the day and you will find yourself on same position you were yesterday.

I once found a guy who hated to see his girlfriend who was abusive to him. And each night he would meet her only to get verbally abused and criticised. He promised never to meet her again for 6 months and he could not do that. That makes a huge mark on their already failed relationship. The more I studied their relationship, the more I felt sad for him. The only advice I gave him was “learn to replace your actions.” Without me understanding what it meant. Weeks later he came back a new man few pounds more and few inches taller. He smiled to me and said “It worked. I started taking this cooking class at 10. And I did that for 20 days already. She obviously didn’t call and I am forgetting her.” Well, that is sad story but a story with lesson to take from.

Replace your bad habits with another good habit rather than running away from it.

3-Prize system

We are taught to do something good using reward and punishment system where when you do “good” you get prized and when you do “bad” you get punished. The system still works for adults whose consciousness is much more progressed. The notion of association is where we do certain tasks and we avoid others even though they are necessary. Well, it is due to these positive and negative associations were the mind regrets, caught in flight or enjoy the process. When you over eat, you feel bad. Why? Because the marketing, the culture, the image of being fat and the bully gives you hard time. Even though, food you ate does not have much, you feel sorry for yourself.

One of reason for the Struggle to change habits is no association of a task with gratification. If life works such way, why not prize yourself for achievement?

Punishment and reward-psychology today

4-Change pattern

This is a technique that I used a while ago to learn new way of life. I was not satisfied with the one I have. It was never the norm but it did not satisfy me. I wanted to change but I could not for long. And one-day accidentally, I listened to my guts and wrote a fiction like character based on my ideal life in a day. I then change where I stay, whom I stay with, where I sleep. I refused to eat where I ate a day before and learnt to wake up at 5 for 30 days. And I did things based on 30 minutes and 1-hour difference. I did this for a month. And guess what? It was hard but my subconscious picked it. And all of a sudden, I found myself waking up at 5, writing for an hour, reading for another hour, exercising and breakfast and leave the house before 7. Going to bed at 10 and close all my laptop and phone at 9. The more I do them in a certain a pattern they become my days.

More: Breaking pattern

One reason for the Struggle to change habits is lack of repetition and accountability. Replace your habits, break your pattern and learn to prize your self for good work.

 

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Self esteem activities that makes a difference in life

Self esteem activities

A  young man with a deep sense of self and high ego but with deep fear of living came to my office . He looked smart and  confident until he spoke.

I stood there in front of him trying to understand him with his fluctuating feelings. With in few minutes we were on our way to figure out his issues and we devised self esteem activities that he should follow the next few  days to become confident.

Here are the 6 self esteem activities that you also can use in your life.

1-Figuring out what makes the fear.

Our fears are products of our minds. These are very different from one person to another. A fear of talking to others is very jock for some and a huge problem for others. You should be able to know what makes you tick and what takes away your pride and confidence. Write them down on a paper and even write a short note on what takes your self esteem away and when.

self esteem activities: Spend time learning about your issue. If you have a problem of expressing yourself, study how to express yourself. Or join a drama club. If you have fear of crowed, why not practice doing that?

2-Learn your purpose

Fear comes from lack vision. If you don’t have the road map for your life, then you don’t know if you are lost. Lack of knowledge makes you start to tremble for fear of the unknown. Imagine crossing a river and you only have an hour before the storm. Now would you keep rowing to your destiny or you keep wasting your time thinking what others are thinking of you? Do you think what others think of you would make a difference in your life on the boat? NO! It doesn’t. what matters is you have a goal and limited time and you should get there as soon.
People without purpose, therefore, struggle a lot.
When you have a lot to lose in life, then you stop caring about what is irrelevant. That should be why people with family are more with decisive and focused than the single.

self esteem activities: Find your purpose

 

3-Affirm your self

Self-affirmation seems not a working exercise. The challenge is most people won’t go through the exercises and quit prematurely. Somethings are hard to change in short time. They say a single negative opinion needs 20  positive opinions to cancel out. We also tend to remember the negative more than the positive.

When you affirm yourself that you can, then you are cancelling out the negative you already have. And you need a lot of it for it to work. Continue doing it no matter what the results are.

self esteem activities: affirm yourself.

4-Do what others are not willing to do

Why not wake up at 5 and finish the day’s work or exercise or cook or do something that makes you better than the majority. An sales man once said he(like a paranoid) woke up early every morning to take fresh air before others take it.

Why not have a different habit that you never had. I call it breaking a pattern. Change of habit needs disrupting the current activity.

Months before, I planned a change change in my life and then I changed things I do on daytime. I changed where I stay and with whom I stayed. And guess what it was hard. I had to struggle not to return to my past activities. People were questioning my disappearance from past places. But I insisted and stayed away. And it worked. I made a new habit. And with that I was a better person.

self esteem activities: change pattern.  

5-Get you head up

Years before I was a shy boy. I used to avoid walking among a crowed even among friends. And one day I wanted to stop that feeling and to become confident once again. And that morning, I went to class with sandals. That was hard decision. People noticed, some laughed that I did something new. And I didn’t care. At least I forced myself away from caring. I started holding my head high and walking slowly between crowed. Each time I did that, I was better. I was building confidence. And weeks after I got myself doing the same but without fear and over thinking.

What can you do to lose your deepest fear? Is that as easy as holding your head up?

self esteem activities: get your head up(free)

6-Express your weakness before others do

Last time I was on a  date, and before any issue of who is paying was raised, I jumped in to conversation frankly saying that I didn’t bring any money for dinner except few dollars for tea. And we laughed probably without her knowing that I was telling the truth. And that happened. We had tea and water for few dollars and we walked around and I drove her home. We had a great time. What if I hadn’t told her about money until the bill appeared? Who knows?

 

You should learn to express your weakness right before it is raised by others.

Years before I told a friend that he could fight his inability of expressing feeling by reflecting opinions on his partner. I told him to say to her ‘’ I am not good at expressing feeling, you will probably teach me that’’ and it worked for him. His partner was dying to teach him to do that. And that was beautiful. Don’t be afraid to tell your strength and your weakness upfront when it is necessary.

self esteem activities: tell your weakness as story.

I hope these tips give you an idea and challenge to grow in your life with out fear. Confidence is also an excersise. It takes time to have unshaking esteem.

Good luck.

 

 

Time management

Importance of time management: why you need to worry about wasting time

Importance of time management

Time management is the basis for a successful life. Without time management our work is futile like sculpture without a meaning behind. The main factor that creates a trajectory for success is how one uses time, therefore, efficiency and quality of work, in a limited time. The importance of time management is not limited to production or discipline in the work environment.

Here are five reasons why you don’t need to waste time.

1-Time is a fixed asset.

When you are dealing with a load of work with various inputs and workforce, what you have as a tool is your limited time. Our schools and workplaces are competition grounds and time favors the one that respects it. When you deal against the fixed asset, then, your time management skill will tell the result of your efforts.

importance of time management: Use the limited time to your advantage

2-Time does not stop and wait.

Cliché, I know. But that is true. Time is like a river, it flows away. You can contain its footprint in to a well but you can’t freeze it in a moment to manipulate it for own advantage. What you can do is to figure your limited opportunity and to make the best out of it.

I have always wanted to know if I am doing things as per my potential in a given time. Because if I can accomplish a something in 10 years that I could have done it in 20. what if I do it in 5? I could live the rest in boredom or I could go and accomplish better in the rest day of my days. Both are not bad.

Or see it this way. You are not as energetic in your 30s like you were in 20s or younger. Time is giving you a less energy, older body, and you can’t re-live the past.

importance of time management: time passes and you pass, avoid regret by using it.

3-Efficiency

Efficiently is a reason for success. Efficient companies are profitable. When your plan your time, you will become aware of what you have to do and what you have done. You will better manage your time and you will do more in short time.

Smart students have schedules that they use for their day. They know when to play and when to work.

importance of time management: it will make you efficient.

4-Save energy.

They say if you don’t have a plan, you will live in other’s plan. If you don’t have time management skill then you find yourself wobbling around without an achievement. That is an easy ground for lazy and unsuccessful people around you. They will use your excuse and cling on you and live off of you until you become numb and despaired.

Time management helps you save yourself from exhaustion of excess work and energy takin persons.

importance of time management: it helps you save your energy

5-Success

Time is directly related to success. Without time your achievement is nothing. When you are aware of you time, you are on the way to success. Procrastination is one of the reasons for failure in most people’s life. your time management skill will determine on what you can accomplish and be seen as success.

importance of time management: you can become successful

 

Gary vee talks about the Two Things That Hold You Back : grand self

 

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Gary Vaynerchuk builds businesses. Fresh out of college he took his family wine business and grew it from a $3M to a $60M business in just five years. Now he runs VaynerMedia, one of the world’s hottest digital agencies. Along the way he became a prolific angel investor and venture capitalist, investing in companies like Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, Uber, and Birchbox before eventually co-founding VaynerRSE, a $25M angel fund. The #AskGaryVee Show is Gary’s way of providing as much value value as possible by taking your questions about social media, entrepreneurship, startups, and family businesses and giving you his answers based on a lifetime of building successful, multi-million dollar companies. Gary is also a prolific public speaker, delivering keynotes at events like Le Web, and SXSW, which you can watch right here on this channel.

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Break the pattern of life to change your life

How do you change your life?

Well that seems easy when you are the outsider. But on that very moment that you realized that you need a change in your life, that is where it hits hard. You feel the pain right there under your groin, a pain that goes and comes until crumble in dispair. That is life.

“Life is a progress”, some say. It is being better than yesterday. The Japanese has a culture of not examining kids at beginning of elementary school and they evaluate performance based on progress of a student, not on its current performance at exams. Well, that is different from the west and the rest of the world where getting top is the always requirement.

So, how do you change your life since life is a constant change and complex problem when seen from inside.

Well, here is the solution.

First, you can’t change nothing from the perspective where you created the problem.

“We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”

-Einstein

To solve something, you should change your perspective, your thought, your path, everything. This is where people lack the process. They want to change their life, but they don’t have the guts to change it from a different position. They try from the place they created the problem. It is similar to being an addict. The addict vows every morning not to drink anymore and every night they go out for one drink only to find them selves in regret the next morning. They want but they never change.

For a change to come, you should be willing to change your current position in life. The change of life is a result, if not pattern of results. You change, that is inevitable. But the change I am talking about the change of being sober and living as one. Or being successful in your current life. or becoming a great football star in 5 years kind of thing.

These problems could not be solved from the position you created the problem from.

Then what?

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Lets assume, you want to be influential person or a great writer or any thing.

And here goes your current life pattern. Every morning you wake up at 8 and brush your teeth while looking your tired face in the dirty bathroom mirror. Exhausted, you are reminded of your desk at job, your colleagues. You change your cloth in minutes while grabbing your sandwich you made last night. You took your car key running out side. Looking back to your living room you noticed the sofa you slept on after coming home tired. Things are messed up at home and you are not happy. Any ways you must leave, to the work, to make money or whatever.

That is the reality of most people’s life. that was me months before. I was not that messy, but I wanted to be better. But better than what? I wanted to be the image that I created in my mind that others could see as impossible. The more I pushed myself to be one, I was in further away from the path.

1-If you want to change your life the first thing you should do is create the perfect image in your mind.

Think of the perfect example of the person you want to be or you want to share a character. On the other side put people you despise and don’t want to be like. Summarize these characters and reflect on yourself. How can you be one?

2-Don’t listen to your mind when it tells you that this is not the time of you can’t be that.

You can’t be great in a day. It is a constant improvement that makes a change in life.

3- After summarizing the things you want to become in a year or 5.

Change that in to an action. For example, you want to be as big as schwarzenegger, then, learn to bench press an hour a day for the next 2 years of your life and set what to eat and when to it. If you want to become slim like someone you liked on media, then learn how you can work out. Call and ask them how they did it. Get their courses, if they have one. And prepare to break the pattern.

4- Break a pattern.

Here is how you can do that. Here will be your daily routine. In the morning you no longer wake up at 8 and see yourself in the mirror tired and bored, wishing to get more sleep. You wake up in at 5 because you slept at 10 last night and you got good sleep. At 6 you run 2 miles on your trade meal and bench pressed 50 and did 200 push ups in one hour. After shower, you sat at your PC, with your coffee to check your email and to write your goals and diary. Within 30 minutes you finished writing 700 words, 3 goals of the day and schedules.

The next one hour you cooked for your family or for yourself you ate while reading the news.  It is not 8 yet. You picked your organised bag and your car key and walked out of the door. And you looked back a beautiful, neatly made room with a great scent.

You smiled consciously and walk out in to the cold morning.

Entering office an hour before any one and you see your colleagues entering the room greeting you. You have finished your work by now with great concentration.

You don’t watch the series you used to watch every night. Because you need a good break so that you can wake up in the morning.

You replaced the habit of watching porn at home in the evening by going out to meet friends and new people.

Your breakup with people that drag you down so that you are no longer complaining about life and how people hold you down.

The whole idea of breaking a pattern is to change the routine for at least until you for get your current life.

To do these you need a great pattern break that could erase the today’s habit. You can take a month vacation, without your PC or communications. That is hard. You can meditate there finding your real self and emotions. You can visit new places every day on the time that you think is making you hate your life.

To break the pattern, you should see life in different way. You should decide to replace your day with completely another. If you use internet all day. Break that by not using a PC for a week and when you are back from the vacation, continue not using it for more than an hour a day or less.

To change ,you need to break the pattern of your life. This is why addicts have sober get-together meeting. It is a way of realising your fear, anger or frustration.

Learn your life closer without fear and boundary. And decide what to become and how to become. Think of the life you love to plan it. And break the pattern strong and hard that you don’t want to be back.

lack of confidence

10 ways How lack of confidence limits success and what to do about it.

 lack of confidence

In this age confidence is everything. Lack of confidence is self destructive habit. Without confidence you can’t be on the top of what you can become. Successful people including the introvert and the shy are charismatic and confident about their ability and they act when the occasion demands it. If you suffer from lack of confidence then it is sure that you are not living with your best self.

Here are 10 ways how lack of confidence is limiting your success and you even don’t know about it. 

1-You settle for less.

Today’s world is full of things that were only fantasy decades ago. The women, the men, the information, the technology, the fashion all are surplus and not otherwise. Settling for less is only self-fault, result of less self-esteem and lack of confidence. If you are comfortable living in the norm or the negative of the world, then, you should watch out. You have every right to marry the person you like. Or you have the option to work where ever you want. All you have to do is to improve yourself along the way. But if you find yourself deciding based fear then based on your capabilities, it is sure sign of lack of self-confidence. If you are disciplined sure you can do the job. Don’t be afraid to take risks.

2-You constantly find yourself expecting the worst.

A girl one time told me how her intuition of expecting the worst in every condition gave her happiness in every event. If you are one of the people like this girl, then you obviously are suffering from lack of confidence. Expecting the worst and getting the worse is same. Bad is always bad. As everything is perspective,you should choose to live on the brighter side of life.

3-You are friends with losers.

We don’t admit that we are the average of the five friends we have. Addicts think they are not addicts and they can stop any time until they are proved otherwise. Believe it or not if you hang out with losers, it means that is where you see yourself fit. Your friends are the result of your confidence level. Lack of confidence attracts you to people with low confidence.

4-You have no vision.

People with lack of confidence live in their minds. They are always trapped inside a dark shell where they learn to ignore the pain of this world. They live to pass the moment barley acting in it. They are stones of the ocean, taking space. Confident people have vision. They know what to do next. Their dream drives them. Their fear and bravery is for the sake of the dream. Don’t forget to have a vision in life. Live a life with purpose you made.

5-They are huge time wasters.

People with low self-esteem don’t appreciate their contribution. In fact, they don’t appreciate their existence. Time is not worth of them. They think that other’s happiness is better than theirs. They spent more time on others than on themselves. We all have time where we wept with a wrong crowed, only to lull them for long, that we forget to live our life. Don’t waste your time on things that does not fulfil your purpose.

6-They give away what is good for them.

Have you ever saw something and wished it for someone else other than you? People who see something perfect and think “I should give this to someone else” is probably suffering with lack of confidence. This underneath has a meaning that you are not fit to get that specific thing that you loved and someone else is. Next time when you see something good take it for yourself. It could be a person, a material, a fortune, and only when you have two feel free to share it.

7-You don’t say “NO!”.

What is your boundary? DO you have any at all? We all know one person that suffers from manipulation from his loved ones. When you do good for others, don’t be deceive, that they will thank you and repay for it. The reality is they ask for more. And if you can’t do it, they will hate you for it. If you don’t say “no” for things that you don’t believe in or for things that you can’t do, then you probably have lack of confidence. You should understand that you have the full right to accept or to ignore any event or request. You are the judge and the leader. Be one.

8-You whine a lot.

This is obvious. We see a lot of whiners everywhere: ignorant CEOs, weeping co-workers and complaining lovers. A lot of whining is a result of non-satisfaction in life but also lack of confidence. When you find yourself complaining rather than doing something, that is the moment to take care. You are wasting a precious time. Believe in yourself. Never complain even if you lose your arm.

9- You have no love for others or anything for that matter.

People who suffer from lack of confidence usually don’t love or appreciate themselves or others. Their self-love is an inflated ego resulted from fear of being exposed. Their love is out of fear of being lonely. Love is for confident people who have the road map.

Love is a result. You can’t love something with decision. Learn to be more confident and to love yourself no matter what then you will learn to love something else.

10- You have no principle.

When you find your self being impressed with the trash of pop culture and its flawed teachings, then watch out. You are probably brainwashed to give up your personal principles in exchange for the minutes event on the TV. You are better than many people that you see on TV, both ethically and intellectually. If you don’t believe that I doubt your confidence. Ignoring moral code for a blind loyalty for things that you barely know is lack of confidence.

Learn to love yourself. Believe in yourself. Your opinion is better than TV’s opinions. Don’t waste time on unimportant events. And learn to say no for some events and requests. Complaining does not do the assignment, Instead, learn to get things done. Learn to love yourself so that you can love others and anything else. Make you principles and follow them strictly. Ignore that does not fit your principles. You will be good.

 

HOW TO GAIN CONFIDENCE:

How to gain confidence: 10 tips to gain confidence faster than you think

How to gain confidence

The idea of how to gain confidence starts from understanding about your self image. Do you need an instant confidence gain in your self? Or do you need a confidence boost for your next date or a presentation or even in your daily life?

Here are 10 tips to instantly gain confidence in your self. 

1-Learn about the stuff that makes you insecure.

Lack of confidence is usually the result of being unsure of the situation that you are in. When you have enough knowledge of the subject that you are dealing with, then, you will be confident that you will do it. Learn to educate yourself consistently to become confident. There are thousands of free sources on the internet on any topic. What you have to do is to be willing to learn.

2-Believe in the experience.

The first step to any action is the objective. How to gain confidence should start from a certain useful purpose or a goal. The rest is the experience. The more you experience the thing, no matter how many times you failed in the process, the result becomes worth telling. When you believe in the experience, more than the result, then you will have more results than your expectations. And that is wired but beautiful.

3-Practice.

The problem with most people out there is the limited practice of something that everyone has. When it comes to the social scenarios, one needs a continuous experience than a onetime big event. When you start experiencing various events then you start getting used to the status quo. The smallest things that bother you before, no longer become a problem. The third tip of how to be confident is to stop overthinking and to jump into the field and learn from experience.

4-Learn to let go.

Failure is good, when it is a result of a purposeful action. We usually don’t have the chance to see how many times people failed before they become successful. How to gain confidence starts from to not see life as serious.

Life is to be traded with. It demands a constant improvement. What matter is not failing but getting up and keeping going. Let go of the past. Don’t be hard on yourself. Embrace your failures or challenges as your assets and trade with them.

5-Befriend these whom you like to be like.

The short cut to success is to be with successful people. Period. Some call this networking others mentors.  The reality is These people will show you that life is about improvement. How to gain confidence is not natural but time based. It is process. You learn that these people have failed harder and more than any of the people you knew. This made them successful.

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6- Don’t be afraid to embrace about your weakness.

Once I told a complaining girl that her life without a parent could be seen as an opportunity. The comment drove her crazy. The reality is , instead of complaining, learn to embrace the things that seem out of the ordinary in your life. If you are fat, you can get thin. Why the fear just work on your body. But if you are short you probably die that way. So why the tear? Why the complaint? Embrace that and dare to talk about your shortcomings. Teach people about it. Tell your view to the world.

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If the world is dark for you then it is dark. If the world is light then it is. It is as much as you think. No more. The world does not change even after two world wars.

We make the meaning in life. Change your mind to change your life. How to gain confidence starts from seeing the world in a different eye. This demands a decision and a constant work. It needs blocking your mind from overthinking of the negative.

8- Take more actions

People who do are more confident than people who plan and study. Too much thinking and critics is suicide. We usually disprove and kill our own big ideas. 80 percent of our thought is negative.  When you take actions with goals, you still have rooms for improvement. You can change your goals along the way. The world approves those with a result or with a tangible work. A musician should have a recorded work on a CD. That format has more power than the spoken one. Don’t tell people that you do something, show them. How to gain confidence needs a constant action, failure and improvement.

9- Know nothing is perfect.

You see others with fake faces and bodies and with calculated actions and you compare then with yourself and you conclude that you are less of them. The reality is that you can’t judge a thing with its cover. What is real is what is inside. There are thousands of insecure people with fake smile. Don’t compare yourself with others. That is unfair.

10- Snap your brain out of it.

The Mel’s 3 second rule is important here. Your brain is full of the negative. Unless you snap out of its failing thought, it gives you hard time. Learn to break the pattern by stopping your mind at the right moment. You are not your thoughts. Then breaking them won’t change your real self. So next time you feel insecure about talking to others, snap yourself out of it and just run to meet the people.  How to gain confidence is by snapping your mind out of the pseudo fear and telling it that everything is OK.

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life has no meaning

Life has no meaning: 4 ways to make meaning in life

”Life has no meaning.”

That is a great leap for a layman to define the whole in four words. What is life anyways and what is the meaning of it? How do you identify when something has no meaning?

Well that needs some scientific explanation. But that is irrelevant to this article.

I speak in terms of experience, only in terms of the limited understanding that we all acquire, but probably won’t use anyways.

My empirical engagement in life suggests that we make meaning in life as we move through. Our decisions, our actions and our interactions make the smaller images that we individually want to see in the world possibly without a grand comprehension of the big image.

So, how do we make meaning in life in the world that has no meaning.

1-We live to experience and through the experience.

What is life for you? List the things that makes you believe that you have life or the things that makes a meaning in your life. These meanings are probably your experiences. For example, your personal meaning for life could be to make others happy. And making happy involves your love life, your family life or your work life. It is, therefore, all about your experiences and your engagement in the world.

What you do every day makes the meaning in your life. My life meaning and yours is different in shape and form.

A meaning of life for some is dark and dangerous. For others, it is a prison to escape. For some it is all about the short-term happiness no matter the consequences.

I can’t tell you about the experience that you should enjoy. It is in fact true that our life is in congruent with that we call moral or immoral. Live your life in the moral side, without affecting the world negatively.

Life has no meaning; we make meaning through the experience. Live to the fullest of what you can and what you have. Identify things that you want to do based on your experiences and do them.

2-Life has no meaning. Life is living now.

Tomorrow or yesterday are out of our natural control. No matter what quantum physics or others teach, the reality is we don’t know what happens within an hour. The only true control you have is on now. You can continue reading this text or you can escape it. You can shout at the very moment or you can sit still. Or you can do it as long as the conscious agrees.

If now is the time, why not enjoy now?

Enjoy each moment. Refuse to live a second of mediocrity. Say no if it does not fit you no matter the risk.

Recently I had a discussion with a group of stakeholders for some project. In fact, some were smart people from different parts of the world. In the middle of the meeting, I noticed that most of the things discussed were not useful for the project in any way. It was not useful for me or for the project. I had to ask the boss to conclude the meeting and move on with our lives.

I decided not to waste time on something that don’t see fit my limited time.

And this decision doesn’t go without risk. I could lost friendship from some and others probably hated my bold move.

No matter how it turns out live the life you enjoy.

3-Life has no meaning. We make meaning though purpose.

To make a life meaning, always think about your purpose. What is that one thing that bugs you? Do that what makes meaning to your existence.

I believe discovering your purpose could take time. Follow your passion and do that for a year. check if you still want to do that even after a year.

In order to define the meaning of your life, define what you want it to be in 10 years. How do you want to live life, how do you want to be seen what problems you want to solve? If you answer this question. You can define your life. and the meaning comes in the very moment when you live that big picture.

Everyone has one thing that they will be known with. Some are drunk others are inventors. It depends on your dedication to your purpose. You might know record-breaking athletes with good business skills. After 100 years people remember their records, probably not the money they make. Then focus on what you are good at, treat it like your purpose and live that. Life will make a meaning.

Life has no meaning. You’re make your meaning through your purpose.

life has no meaning _grandself

4- life has no meaning. The meaning is individual.

Life is like opinion. You live it as you see it. It is the Individual that makes meaning.

Then how do you make your meaning? How do you define your life at this very moment?

A day in athlete’s life is not on a sofa but your’s could be. It is about the individual meaning and what you are willing to do.

Life has no meaning. You make the meaning through your individual experience. This means your experience makes the meaning and not otherwise.