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Famous guru Gaur Gopal Das swears by a simple mental exercise that keeps you happy, healthy, and in control.Speaker: Gaur Gopal Das

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The most powerful 5letter word in the world…The most powerful 5 letter word in the world… what is the most powerful word in the world that could change your life if you use it? smile now. Famous guru Gaur Gopal Das swears by a simple mental exercise that keeps you happy, healthy, and in control.

7 Secrets of success from Dr. Myles munroe

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Myles Munroe talks about secrets of success that most people miss. Here are 7 secrets of success that help you figure out your future.

1- Success is what you have done compared to what you should have done.

Success,therefore, is not owning worldly matters or being better than others. Real success according to Myles is fulfilling the potential that you realized in your self that is unique but laying silent. You should wake up the giant and fulfill the task that no one knew except you. He says no one should die with the thing, that is the potential, that they could offer the world. He says everyone should die empty. This takes us to the second secret.

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2-Success is not measured by how you are compared with other people.

People compare themselves with others to feel good about themselves or to figure where they are in life. However; Success is not how you compare with others but how you compare with your potential. This means having something better than others don’t make you successful. But doing what is up to your potential does. So, ask yourself ‘is this the best I can do?’ Instead of ‘ is this better than others?’

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3-Success is not how long you lived, it is how effective you lived the short life.

In fact, most successful people lived short. Martin Luther King, John F. Kennedy, and more. Dr. Myles quotes ..they lived life so effective, the history books won’t deleted them. He compares Methuselah, the man who lived 969 year in the bible and with Jesus whdon’t have that much of history in the books. There are others who have lived short whose story takes chapters.

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4-Success needs decision.

There are things you should change including friends, your environment.

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5- “The greatest enemy of your success is your last success.”

Don’t let your success block you from you next success.

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6- Your purpose is stuck inside you, not ahead of you.

The future of all creation is hidden in creation. Trees are trapped in seeds; a cow is trapped in calf. Every ting God created, put its future in its self. You are finished when you were created. It seems a tale. But here it is the truth. Un-manifested purpose is inside you. You need to live and act that purpose for its wholeness. An automobile is concepted and finished before it goes out to the public. Its potential is inside it. It needs a test drive to see the potential.

“Your future is not ahead of you it is inside you. “

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7-Success is not measured with your past failure.

Your future is more valuable than your past. The secret is not to stuck on the past and revisit your future. Your future is not lived. And you have the chance to change your faults of the past and live a better life.

“Your past is a portion of your life. There is a pack that is un-lived.”

Don’t let the past keep you off your future.

Secrets of success #7






5 principles of Purpose by dr. Myles Munroe that will help you be successful in life

purpose dr myles munroe

Have you ever wondered about your purpose? If you are lucky few, you have figured it out. You didn’t leave your life for the unknown ,unplanned. Rather you are taking actions. Dr. Myles dedicated his life to teach people to discover their purpose and “die empty.” He says , many people die with their purpose, with out doing anything of value with it. The richest place in the world is not the mine of south Africa ,he says , it is, in fact, the cemetery. Because , it is a place filled with the dead who left with untapped dreams , unwritten books and unfinished beginnings.

Here, I share five powerful principles of finding your purpose.

 1-Time is too short. The best way to waste time is not knowing the purpose.

It is logical that if you walk without purpose in this short life, you will end up no body. It is fair to say one should discover its unique purpose and be entwined with it. 

purpose dr myles munroe2- What matters is why. Why am I here.

Purpose is the original intent for the creation of a thing, that is in the mind of the creator of the thing. Nothing in life is without purpose.

“God does not thing without a purpose”

3-Not every purpose is known.

Where purpose is not known abuse is inevitable. Learning the sense of abuse where it meant abnormal use, then it means where…known abnormal use is inevitable. Even medical drugs have a drug in them, enough to make you addict if abnormally used. Have no child if you don’t know the purpose. If you don’t know the purpose for a car don’t buy.

4-If you want to know the purpose for the thing, never ask the thing.

People ask other people to discover the purpose of their life. And Myles says it is wrong. Purpose is only found in the mind of the creator of a thing. He gives how people assume the use of an equipment when the manual of the equipment gives the purpose and warnings and procedures of how to use the equipment and warranties. That is the reason why most shoppers don’t read manuals, they assume. This also limit the use of the equipment. He says most people know not more than three keys on how to use many equipment. Taking the equipment to unauthorised dealer for a fix, you could get a temporary fix but a permanent more damage later. The bible is the manual. And he says, one should know the bible to understand the full purpose of the self.

5-Purpose is the key for the fulfilment.

Fulfilment is measured by the individual against the purpose they had when they were born. If you know your purpose and walk with it then you will probably end your age with fulfilment.


Sources: Speech Azusa, 1990 “The power of purpose”

How to Set Goals: 80/20 Rule for Goal Setting | Brian Tracy

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How to Set Goals: 80/20 Rule for Goal Setting
Setting goals is a very easy process, yet, many people suffer from setting reliable goal or attainable goals. This frustrates many people.
Brian Tracy here explains the 80/20 rule of goal setting.

How to ruin your 20s and what to do about it

The shortest cut to ruining your 20s is by becoming too obsessed on what is irrelevant to life.

The shortest cut to ruining your 20s is by becoming too obsessed on what is irrelevant to life. How to ruin your 20s

The shortest cut to ruining your 20s is by becoming too obsessed on what is irrelevant to life. Could it be the party or the girls or the things you love but that does not make a difference? The real life starts when you are responsible and when you find your purpose. And it is then you feel the existence of death and you get fascinated with the shortness life.

But most 20s is a confusion between a fantasy and reality.

But is 20s too good to be big?

We see many celebrities in their 20s. They are all over a media, with their inventions or small actions or music. But the majority is hidden away in front of the TV watching these success stories.

In fact, most people were nothing in their 20s. As I said the 20s is a clear confusion. Because the vague confusion was the teen age where we run around with a though of inflated ego. And when the smallest of the pins popped our balloon we stayed there wishing if life would have been better or different. We stayed up to see the other part of life where we are not that egoistic but curious. The 20s is drinking, sleeping around and obsession of doing something that seems impossible for the older age.

What is the best thing to do in 20s.

It depends. You could be the one that could do something in your 20s. the reality is the 20s is a preparation time for the rest of life for most. You finish college in your first 20s. and you are thrown out in to the world to figure your place in it. The debt, the result of careless decision, the pressure to make money or to get a woman/man or to build a house. All makes you conscious puppet.

Your efforts are in a dream like state where you are swimming in the big ocean wising for the endless horizon.

Instead, your 20s should be a preparation for what comes in your 30s. You should prepare the base for the real life. You shall learn the economic, social and cultural values of life, society, family. You should plan and start to become your dreams.

I have worried much. But I write not to worry.

For some, achievement is the lesser things in life. it could be graduating from a mere college. For others, it the perfectness of their dream. Well, life depends on how you perceive it. What matters is whether you made the right decision or not and whether you are prepared to make an impact or not. If the opportunity showed up on your door steps, take it. If not be prepared and create one. The time or the age is irrelevant.

Three tips that create a successful person : grandself

success is the ability to move on.

 success is the ability to move on. There are various reasons for success. Time, money, mind, all contribute to your success in life, in profession. What I share you hare are what I have learn this week and that I really think that could benefit you if you learn it as well.

1-Following up the vision

Cruel follow up of the vision and grand action makes one successful beyond the norm. I had a goal that I had to get to within this week and Monday morning I woke up and  wanted to return to my old life. As much as I wanted to do something different for this week, I went back to the old life. By today, I had forgotten the plan until the small piece of paper reminded me.

I had subscribed to work out in a gym 5 weeks ago. At the time I wanted to continue exercising after I quit doing for few days. And today, I received the fifth week workout manual with my email and I even didn’t started the first work out yet.

I feel that the young age decides us with ego and false perception of time where we feel invincible and immortal. The reality is that time is flying and we are getting older. Success is equivalent to aggressive follow up of a plan we set.

2-Forgiving yourself

After a rough meeting with a friend, I came back home to think that success is the ability to move on. Without forgiving oneself of any regrets, one cannot be successful. I noticed that the regret that he has is the regret that he had a decade before. We talked same topic then and now that has grown to be more real.

One reason why many smart people are less successful is their tendency to be perfect. Perfection is a given as well as a curse. The dream to create a perfect life creates disbelieve and unsure-ness of life itself. As a perfectionist myself, I learnt to believe the process, no matter what. I learnt that the progress is better than the result since the result could be anything. And the success of the result depends on how others see it. Worrying on every corner and to wish life to be perfect does not change nothing for most.

Instead, learn that we are not perfect and we can be better than that we were. That is what matters.

3-learn to see the big picture

Many young people join burger selling or waiting in café and they stay there. Many people don’t have a vision. They live for money.

Success is in the vision. What is the big picture. What is it you want to change in the world and what do you want to be known with?

If you don’t have something to die for, then you are not fit to live. Learn what is good for you and what you can contribute. Make a big picture of it and work to attain it. You will be successful.




Why we should follow plans and how they makes us successful

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plan _ grandselfPlans

A day before, I was in the zone. I was grooving, noting my ideas and my hypothesis in life. I was sitting in the café with my pen and a small piece of paper that the waitress brought noting plans for the week. This I thought could challenge all the pattern of the life in the week. It was in fact a dream come true. It would have made me more responsible and create a dream life for me that I wished to have whenever I go to bed every night.

And next morning, I wake up in two minds. I wanted to follow the plan and at the same time the other part of mind was fighting to stay on course of the past, using time and look productive. In fact, everything that I would do would not be more than a pretence of the real job. Any way I did it. I went out at 8:30 and had a breakfast, get my car cleaned and went to the office only to research on the business I am developing. I didn’t come up with that much of result. And before much was done I left the office to meet some people. And I spent more than 3 hours on the road. At the end of the day, that was it.

That was it in terms of what I could have done. That makes me think “what is it that makes a difference in life?”

What makes a difference in life?

I am a firm believer that what you think every night is a fantasy of your day and that make you better than the average if not best. Some say that the best time to think is just before you go to bed. It is probably easy to clearly think and with out fear of tomorrow when everything is quitter.  Others this is because the subconscious is awake when the conscious is tired.

Whatever you think to do on the next day, you must do. In fact, most of the things I planned to do on the next day were intense and could meet me with different people. These could help me to solve the mystery of my long time questions.

Actions are greater when done in terms of purpose. In design there is a system where one has to follow to end up on result. Some senior designers could escape the process and even create their own. But when you are not senior you should follow the general process and you know you will end up somewhere. The mistake most beginners do is to do things that does not contribute to the greater goal.

You can prepare a mood board but if you don’t have a concrete  reason why you need to do that, you will end up spending more time and without a reason. When you speak with clients, you should know what to ask. Asking about their mother or a small talk does not contribute much.

Your actions in life could be much or more than the average. But if you cannot limit them in to certain “why” then they won’t benefit you. For example, my today’s meeting was a complete loss. I have known they were fine and I arranged some business processes but that would have been greater if I had don’t something that I planned a day before.

What makes a great difference in one’s life is what has been thought over and what complements actions that make a complete picture at the end.


How to become rich: 11 beliefs that are blocking you away from getting rich

how to become rich _ grand self


How to become rich is a serious question. When the world is full of resources, the majority lives in a deep poverty. I was born in same poverty that was masked with unrealistic thoughts and dreams. I noticed that being rich or poor is a choice and education has only few contribution for this. Kids used to ask “are you learning for the fortune or for the knowledge?” Some of us were so self-righteous we preached our interest in knowledge though academic education referring our good grades and our respect from friends.

But later in life I discovered something else.

A students who is learning for the knowledge will dedicate time to learn more than the text book. You will find them in lab or at home experimenting or googling without being requested at school.

Others said the reason for their learning is the wealth. The reality is education has less relation with money, usually. Most rich people are drop outs, or the slowest students in class. Of course those who manipulate our life through economy and politics are hidden back the people we see on the podium and they tend to have a good grade at education. These are the ones that studied for the information and got a good opportunity later in life.

Education also used to equate wealth and power. People respected a literate person with college degree. Now, especially in the internet age, your education does not get you respect.

For our surprise an “idiot” on Instagram makes money with fake mascaras and sluggish dances. That is life.

Then what is the way to being rich? Why does the literate or the capable live in debt when a small kid makes thousands a month without much work?

Here are 11 ideas and beliefs that are blocking you away from success.

You become that you think all day

In fact, you are what you think all day long. We usually live dual life, absent minded. We want to live in certain way and we live in another way. One of the challenges of change, in my experience, is not lack of decision or unwilling to change. Rather, it is the discipline.

We want to become rich and we decide to look for location or talk to people and next morning we are all in same trap. We live same life we lived yesterday. I believe that is the reason Einstein said one cannot solve a problem from the position they created it. You should create a new position or reality for yourself to tackle a challenge. That is the reason I talked about breaking a pattern. 

The challenge is not only about what you think but also what you do.

Is someone poor because they think poor or they think poor because they are poor?

The poor get poorer and the rich richer. When you see deep in to it, it gets interesting. The poor fight the rich on their achievement. And the rich keeps getting richer. Is this because the rich are confident to make money or is the money made them feel that way. That is the reason why usually the rich has more ego than the poor. The poor is already broken.

Watch out what you do all day.

How to become rich: dare to be effective and useful

Looking the other empty

The day I looked myself as successful is when I felt that I had lost the things I built all the years. I was very blind not to see my small successes and achievements and complaining only looking at the other empty. I believe the way to  how to become rich is by appreciating what you have now. If you don’t know or appreciate your strength how can you tackle the challenges? Imagine, you could be a numbers person. And someone else is not. Who do you think will be successful if both of you start accounting firm? Bolt will be more successful if started athletics firm.

Before joining any business or starting your venture or even before becoming rich, you should see your strength and weakness. (read Warren Buffet secret to riches ) what do you have now? A loving family, healthy body, 2000 dollars in bank, a house…what do you have that you can leverage from?

Don’t get fixated on what lacks. That is immaturity. Who cares if you are 10 cm shorter than the normal. I met someone who is very shy because he looks younger than his real age. His success was shot at the moment he shies away from opportunity because of the other half than what he already has.

Must read: life is easy

How to become rich: appreciate what you already have

Lack of thinking

Wealth is the product of man’s ability to think. AYN RAND

I used to think that the kid at the corner crying to get my attention deserves my attention;  the reason that a seller is asking for more money because that is the real value of his efforts. I had hard time to differentiate between the motive and the action of people.

But with time, I learnt to differentiate people in four categories that helped me to discriminate people like the most of you probably have the skill to do.

In business or any field there are four type of people that usually act on the surface as innocent or successful.

The first types are the vultures. Those are the ones without ideas or money. These are dangerous. These are losers. You should be careful of them. This statement could have been a little bit harsh for my past self. But not anymore. Those will kill to eat. They have no dream or vision. They live to eat. You find them everywhere, trying to take advantage of your ideas or your money.

The second are the ones with money but no idea or vision. These probably got lucky to own fortune from parents. Since they have no discipline in life they are wasting much or they are too afraid to spent for fearing the future. These are good for you if you don’t have the money to pursue your ideas. They could be good partners.

The third are the ones with goals but no money. This is probably you. Most people belong in this category. People in this category are probably poor, are average, work to meet some income goal, are good people, usually lazy, procrastinate a lot. They are educated or have a knowledge that is mostly useless. They know about “Kardashian” than “cash flow.” These are the sheep who buy a lot and are in debt. These are the ones who are hooked on TV hours and hours and complain a lot about the economy.

The last ones are the one percent. These have the money and the vision. They make the money that is necessary to finance the idea. And it goes in spiral way. They own the rest of the category since they own hundreds if not thousands of employees in their firms. They are the ones who live as they like. These are the third categories watch on their TV. If you are lucky to have those in your life, cling to them; learn from them.

One of the secrets on how to become rich is to start using the brain. It is to identify opportunities, plan, research and make it happen.

How to become rich: think

Not changing the trend of the mind

Promising to change is not enough. You need to change your all reality. You need to break the pattern of your habits. That one step ahead. Every young want to be a man but only some become one. Others are grown boys. Becoming a man needs to pass a success of hurdles and challenges and get a trophy. This could be deciding to live a parent’s house, being responsible and more. A constant reading or a plan does not make a fast and lasting change. Money is same. Many rich people’s experiences show that one only become rich when change their life practically.

Change begins with change of mind. A constant affirmation to the unconscious helps the unconscious believe that reality. The unconscious, the psychologists say, is the largest but the dormant part of the brain. While the conscious is what interacts with the world. The real power is in the subconscious, that guides thought and action slowly behind the curtain.

Some say, you get a new habit by doing a specific task continuously for at least 21 days. The consistency and the continuity change thoughts.

Some advice to say out loud your plans, your visions, your strengths for 3 weeks or more at least three times a day. And your subconscious pick it up and work on it to make it real.

how to become rich _ grand selfGet rich soon

Paul Mckenna in his book “I can make you rich” says the driving force to ‘get rich soon’ scheme is driven by two enemies of wealth: fear and greed. Have you read about stories about people getting ripped off believing these schemes? Fear forces one to choose what seems illogical.

Good results come with work that has reasonable amount of work in front. That is the reason Tony Robbins say that many NBA players become poor in short time) (link his book how to become super rich)

For PAUL McKENNA Ph.D.  money is like power. It is the illusion. It is the other things that make a difference. Power could be lost without tactics, plan. Money does too. Then a constant cultivation of personal and financial skills in mandatory for being rich. and this could take some time.

How to become rich: don’t be greedy

Money makes you happy

Happiness is a by-product of achievement and money can be an achievement. But money by its self cannot make one happy without any other reason attached to it. A loser is a loser even after the money. Expecting the money to make one’s life better is a good thing. But expecting money to make you happy or to make your failed marriage is a poor thought.

Don’t seek money to solve your relationship problems or to solve your unhappiness.

One things you should understand is that it is you that matters. If you really want it you can become happy even without money. Don’t think to make your family happy with money that you could not provide them. You can live on 5000 dollars a month or 50 000 dollars a month. You can become confident, happy and have a great loving family even in 5000. What matters is you, not the size of the money. Instead use the extra money to fulfil what your family needs. It could be clothing or food or better education or better car. That makes you and them happier and comfortable. The way How to become rich is by not wishing money to solve problems that you should solve. Instead by using it to make your great life greater.

How to become rich: be someone even before the money

Paper money has more value than your service.

Someone says 100-dollar bill paper takes only few dollars to print. The only value that that few dollars paper has is the number on it that is “100”.  At some time in past useful and precious items such as salt and gold were medium of exchanges. These are natural and have fixed value all over the world. Even the paper was the representative of these gold that is somewhere since carrying gold for exchange was a hard task. Recently, the money was only a value in itself, without gold backing it up. It suddenly becomes valuable by itself.

Once after a discussion with a client on the services I provide her, I mentioned the price point and she was shocked. I knew that she was only hustling me by exaggerating a market price point into getting a few more dollars out of me. And I said to her “Do you know that how much the dollar is depreciating each year?” she mumbled. And I continued to say “the paper you give me today has lesser value a year and year after, but the value I give you makes you more and more money each year” And she got it. Don’t be afraid to get the money that is enough to your efforts. Money is never equivalent to your creativity or your hard work.

How to become rich: value your work

The association

The reason we like to do something or we avoid something has a direct or indirect relation with how we prize or punish our self for the task. For example, we fear fire not because we are born that way but because we are probably told it is dangerous or we touched and felt its sting. Fire is bad. We like to go party and others don’t.

I recently heard a story of a man where a girl insulted him on his very young age. Since then, he was terrified of having a woman in his life. He died without marriage and without any relations.

This system also works in animals. It has been tested in monkeys and we all do it on our cats and dogs. In one experiment, a group of monkeys were given a banana at the top of a ladder. But whenever the monkeys climb the ladder to get the banana, everyone’s feet will be shocked with current under their feet. After a while they picked the trend that the current passes whenever someone succeeds to climb the ladder. Then they started to fight to discourage anyone from climbing.

That is not the interesting part. The interesting part of the experiment is the monkeys were transferred to another cage and a new monkey without the prior knowledge of what happened before joined them. And they fight him to death when the monkey climbs the ladder even though the new cage has no electric shock. He was fought until he learns the trend without knowing why he should not eat the banana that everyone avoids.

Guess what, whenever a new money joins the cage, even the new monkeys fight them off from getting the banana.

This is life. life also works this way. Most young people suffer from the world view that parents gave them. Some of our parents are religious that hate money. Others see it as hard work that would give them heart attack or migraine. Others were so control freaks while others have not plan or budget.

We learn, we associate. And without knowing the reason we learn to fear the unknown from the society even looking at the prize in view point.

The other way on How to become rich is to learn the reality of association. Like the new monkey that discouraged newer monkeys without a probable reason except the discouragement of peer fellows. One should cleanse the mind and develop new reality.

How to become rich: learn to prize yourself

You hate rich people

If you hate people with money, you will hate the money. If you think people with money are bad then you don’t want to become one. (remembered the association story?) The secret is to know whom do you want to become, not in terms of personality, but in terms of the money. Imagine the rich people you know. Do you hate them only because they are rich? Do you feel that they are the devil only because they planned, strategized and work their way through the ladder of the money? Then the problem is with you. You can’t hate someone only because they own something. When I was a child I used to think how much is too much? For a completely poor person someone with 100,000 dollars is rich. And that is the sign of the devil. For the person with 100,000 the millionaire is the devil.

Let’s makes it simpler. A person with 1000 dollars is rich for the someone with 10 dollars. And is that their devil?

It is not definite. If millionaire is the devil so is the 1000er.

We can’t label someone as a bad person only because they have the money that we don’t have. Instead you should learn to accept that it is ok for someone to be rich. Learn to accept the reality and work to be part of it in your own morals and dogmas.

 How to become rich: love the people you want to become

Wealth in the world isn’t enough for everyone

One of the scarcity minds that we got from the society is that the resources we have is not enough. One world should have less for the other to get more. These are not ideals of the sane mind. Some say resources are enough in the world for everyone to live a good life. If not greed, it is the lack of knowledge, long term plan and lack of prepared mind that discourages being rich.

How to become rich: the world has more to offer

Love for spending

Many people suffer from spending more than they have and more than they need. Especially women are criticised with emotional spending where they buy more than they can afford. A dress should match a mattress no matter the price.

In this age, the market is full of products with high competition and variety of products to buy. For a mere buyer there are at least more than 50 different choices to buy from. The problem is not buying a single product or even more than one. But since the paying system is easy and the products look great, we are emotionally forced to buy them. It is amazing that people buy after looking an article on Facebook or website by someone they see on TV. The ear rings some singer wore becomes a trend. And even those who have nothing to eat buy it without second thought. I know people who save money only to buy human hair from India. This is crazy.

The marking world where every inch of building and every second of TV is about a product, expenditure, use and throw product, avoiding not buying is unimaginable.

However, it is possible for a trained mind. You should think is it better to own this much cloths and live poor or to save your money and aim to be rich.

The pity part is that people use their debit card to purchase these craps. In fact, most have a collage loan and other thousands of loans on their cards. Most college students get loans more than they need. Most of the money goes to beer and party. And years after the bank is happy and the student is sad.

How to become rich: stop spending money









The solution to the struggle to change habits  


Struggle to change habits

Habits could be the best things that could define a person. Habits gives one the tools to express one self and to learn skills that would not possible without interest and without payment. But habits sometimes become a set up for failure. Some habits are dangerous.

Many people are wired for failure because of the habits that they live with. Someone used to say to me that addicts promise never to drink again every morning, probably due to the hang over or the position they find themselves in. But every night they find themselves circling around at the neighbourhood in lack of vision and decision.

I recently find myself in same situations. Not about addictions or that matter but in daily life itself. Some of the things, like driving to work, working, lunch time, all are habits formed through out long time. Some of us do that unconsciously. Every evening, I plan never to do the routine since the next day, since i felt it was hurting me in life, and I find myself doing the routine the next morning. I do things that i don’t want and seems that i have no power over it.

Then I discovered why we are not firm with our plans and why we struggle to change habits.

1-Our plans are based on emotions.

Emotions are like, “I am great, I can do it” stuff that is irrelevant to the overall vision. We only do it because of some inspiration we have every time and then. They say everyone wants to become a marathon runner at times of Olympics. Lack of follow through is due to short span emotions that does not fulfil the life purpose and current situations. Don’t plan to never go to some place only because you had disagreement with someone.

Do you know people who get hyper after watching TV show they like or after listening inspiring story? Emotion are good but sometimes destructive. Looking things objectively is often good. One reason for the Struggle to change habits is believing emotions more than reality.

2-We don’t have something else to replace the previous habits.

When you decide never to repeat your tasks, then you should see in detail what to do instead. For the drunk never to drink, they should plan to do something else on that specific time. Why not see friends each day of the week and sleep over there? If you don’t plan on what to do instead, surely the mind picks the best thing to do for the day and you will find yourself on same position you were yesterday.

I once found a guy who hated to see his girlfriend who was abusive to him. And each night he would meet her only to get verbally abused and criticised. He promised never to meet her again for 6 months and he could not do that. That makes a huge mark on their already failed relationship. The more I studied their relationship, the more I felt sad for him. The only advice I gave him was “learn to replace your actions.” Without me understanding what it meant. Weeks later he came back a new man few pounds more and few inches taller. He smiled to me and said “It worked. I started taking this cooking class at 10. And I did that for 20 days already. She obviously didn’t call and I am forgetting her.” Well, that is sad story but a story with lesson to take from.

Replace your bad habits with another good habit rather than running away from it.

3-Prize system

We are taught to do something good using reward and punishment system where when you do “good” you get prized and when you do “bad” you get punished. The system still works for adults whose consciousness is much more progressed. The notion of association is where we do certain tasks and we avoid others even though they are necessary. Well, it is due to these positive and negative associations were the mind regrets, caught in flight or enjoy the process. When you over eat, you feel bad. Why? Because the marketing, the culture, the image of being fat and the bully gives you hard time. Even though, food you ate does not have much, you feel sorry for yourself.

One of reason for the Struggle to change habits is no association of a task with gratification. If life works such way, why not prize yourself for achievement?

Punishment and reward-psychology today

4-Change pattern

This is a technique that I used a while ago to learn new way of life. I was not satisfied with the one I have. It was never the norm but it did not satisfy me. I wanted to change but I could not for long. And one-day accidentally, I listened to my guts and wrote a fiction like character based on my ideal life in a day. I then change where I stay, whom I stay with, where I sleep. I refused to eat where I ate a day before and learnt to wake up at 5 for 30 days. And I did things based on 30 minutes and 1-hour difference. I did this for a month. And guess what? It was hard but my subconscious picked it. And all of a sudden, I found myself waking up at 5, writing for an hour, reading for another hour, exercising and breakfast and leave the house before 7. Going to bed at 10 and close all my laptop and phone at 9. The more I do them in a certain a pattern they become my days.

More: Breaking pattern

One reason for the Struggle to change habits is lack of repetition and accountability. Replace your habits, break your pattern and learn to prize your self for good work.


Time management techniques that surely make your successful

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Time management techniques

Techniques are a bone of an action. These make decisions and progress tracking easier. Time management techniques are also necessary to make same decisions and follow progress easily.

Here are five-time management techniques with a huge impact on one’s successful use of time.

1-Cutting off communication for a while

Many entrepreneurs and rich people tell the advantage of social media in business. They also tell the benefit of shutting of your mobile phone and your internet for an hour or more while you are working on important tasks.

It’s time to switch off your mobile and set yourself free

4 Reasons To Turn Off Your Phone

Cutting off yourself from the world for a small one hour seems too much to carry and seems unimportant. However, many studies out there suggest the benefit.

Whenever you have an important meeting or work, try shutting off your phone. Even just before going to bed. There is no right task here. It all depends on what is right and what fits you. I would not advise you to shut your phone when you are people person at your job. Your job is to communicate. Without that, try doing that. For example, time management techniques like cutting off communication works when you are on a date, important meetings, family time, reading time, sleeping time.

time management techniques: give break for yourself for few hours.


Goals are overrated. People don’t identify goals from visions. Goals are achievable while visions are fantasy. Being healthy could be a vision but running 10 miles, a week is a goal. The later one is more of measurable. Without the notion of setting specific goals, your efforts are not important. Time management by itself is not achievable without further smaller tasks.  Instead of thinking to save time on a given day, learn to schedule time and make task for each hour. Your goals could be “write 5 pages before lunch, have 3 short meetings with different up to 3:30, a 30 minute for each and respond to email for 30 minutes…”

This makes accountability possible. You will know where you are good and where you lack. Time management techniques by setting goals help you achieve a lot in short time and also celebrates efficiency

time management techniques: Read simple steps to set goals that are effective

3-Be accountable

Accountability is another ambiguous word. You can be accountable for you own judgement. But may lack a lot in other’s eyes. Accountability and vulnerability go together. When you are accountable for any process you are allowing yourself to critics and judgement. That could help you achieve better in your time management effort.

You can be accountable to yourself. But that usually won’t work since it is easy to cheat yourself out of the task. Instead, time management techniques of accountability say advise to tell your loved ones to criticise you on your goals. Your wife or husband could see your progress based on what you promised them at the beginning of the day. Be accountable in front of others, your boss, your partners. Let them not find you playing video games when you should be finishing your paper.

Time management techniques: accountability and vulnerability infront of loved ones


Many people won’t keep promises. This is a prime example of less self-respect. People with high integrity keep promises. Their words are reflection of their reputations. They keep legacy based on these principles. When you promise your son to be at his foot ball match, that is your word you can’t cancel. Cancelling important issues for the sake of work is usually not important. most things can be finished later.

But what if you can finish whatever you have now, so that you can freely and peacefully join your sons football match? That is possible. Time management techniques of promise work by being reminded of important events that you promised to and finish what every is doing on time,now. This includes vows on your wedding day. Family deserves to meet you on time. Children should see you on dinner and before bed. Learn your responsibilities and be on time.

time management techniques: keep your promise

5-Be leader of the ship

When people think you have the time, they will treat you as one. You should be able to tell people when it is time to stop gossip and go to work. I remember times that I had to meet 15 people in a day. I used to waste time with gossips and unrelated conversations and waiting time. When i noticed that I was losing a lot by not controlling how I waste my time, I was furious. I was no longer part of time wasting, gossiping or waiting for late people. I become the first to say dismiss meetings.

Control your time. Don’t let no one dictate your power. you can stop even your lover or children from wasting your time. Be in control. Give undivided attention to people that deserve that. And the time other than that, be furious and serious.

Time management techniques: take responsibility. This is your life

When you decide to have a goal, and be accountable to it, you become successful. Learn to be a leader of your short time and keep your promise to be where ever you should be. Cutting few hours from information and focusing on your job makes you successful. time management techniques

Makes you successful when you learn to use then when and where.

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