Confidence

The discouragement being a man by society

Being a man is usually discouraged with unintentional and unconscious gesture of the society that deflects away man’s prime instinct in to doubt.

How do you cope up with the cultural boundary that forces you to live inside the fence when the world is outside? And when you wink out through the holes in the fence you see the low class living the life no matter what.

3  things  unconsciously discourage man from being independent.

1-      The cost of living.

This is the cliché of the democratic world where capitalism is widely appreciated and even celebrated. The young is left aside for the wild to figure it out by working in the stinky kitchens of Mc Donands for few dollars an hours. This barley satisfies the appetite of the young age where cost double and income stays consistent. Man prefers to stay at home.

2-      The love of mothers

recently someone told me the prime factor for his marriage was the death of his mother. He no more could not bear to live single with his other 4 brothers who were all over the place and having fun. He decided to get married and within few months, guess what, he was married man. One of the reasons, other than finding a mature person that replaces his mother, that man don’t be a man is his mother made him immature with her unreasonable affection.

3-      Lack of real responsibilities

society fluctuates and forgets the youth form giving a formal responsibility like our ancestors have. If you noticed the culture of some preserved cultures, almost all have steps and initiations that he youth should pass through. In this age a man can marry at 30 or 50. It is up to him, no matter what the reason is. A specific goal is better

being a man _ grand selfSo, what Is the best way to be a man, responsible for both gender.

1-      Learn your strength.

Your strength makes your purpose. And what you do all your day, your habit makes your purpose. If you know what makes you stronger, then that was is easy to win. Be more on than d learn to solve your weakness with it.

2-      Separate from your mother.  

As long as the mother is around, you are dependent. The society learnt to judge a man based on his separation from his mother. In fact, animals have the tendency to push the young away, especially the male, to force it in to creating its own family. The lion chases off its young when food is not enough. The young lions should go out and find and make a family.

3-      Take responsibility

For a man to be one, write a book, make a family or travel. That is the wise advice of Greek philosopher? Do something worthwhile that goes with your interest.                

 

Brook is the main author and owner of grandself. He started grandself as part of a life project to find his purpose and become influential. The posts are part of his understanding and continuous learning in everyday life. He coach people and give free advice over the internet and phone.

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