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The curse of modern education: 6 ways you are trained to be unsuccessful

The only thing that interferes with my learning is my education.
~ Albert Einstein

Education has always been a way of life for a few chosen throughout history: for these who influence the economy or the politics of the country. Many inventors and scientists, authors were lords, sons of lords or sons of rich people.

In this age education becomes a way of life for all. One has to begin its journey in schools since the age of three. They learn way of life through designed curriculum for up to 18 years.

Education is good. But modern education has some weakness.

1-It teaches you 9-5

9-5 Is a good training for the job world in the capitalist society. A person who is trained for 20 years will get used to working 9 to 5 with ease in the job world. But working 9 to 5 does not bring any more value for the world and for self, usually. For someone to be successful on grand level, one may have to hustle more hours or maybe less. At the same time, one has to be adapting to the time that is good for them to work on instead of only 9 to 5. Many people in life are trained to work in this range of time without thinking of what they are doing, what the future holds, only thinking about filling the time that is 9 to 5.

2-You expect someone to save you

I have most of the time waited for someone to come and save me from the things I do in the life after school. At school, the teachers are saviours. And that is portrayed in life same way. Most literate people are usually permission seekers, they need approval. They fear women, they fear life itself, usually. People usually wait in life, wait for someone to come and save them. They wait for someone to allow them to do what they have do, to voice their opinions, to take actions.

3- Useless information

Education is full of useless information.   Many of you might know what mitochondria is from your sixth-grade science. It is defined as energy house of cells. Many of us still doesn’t know what energy house is let alone what mitochondria is. Some of you may not even know what cell is. But this took almost a year to learn a concept that soon become irrelevant in the later life. I have never been reminded of mitochondria even for second after sixth grade until I started questioning its relevancy of it to my life.

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4- Judged based on the ability to memorize

For a student who was praised for most his life, it was unfair for me to judge education in a negative way. But truly, I had doubts some elementary school. Modern education is usually the ability to memorize than the ability to make it part of life or a character. Most of us memorized the text books to only answer few questions on exams. Education is irrelevant to life when it becomes a race to get good grades.

5-Not practical

Since the end it is all about getting accepted in to college, then it is probably a good idea to focus on passing exams than understanding and learning the real and useful substance of the education. This is probably why most Asian and African students could get better grades in the west. When education is a means of survival, you are not urged to know, but you are urged to get good grades. That is all. At the end of the year, you have got “A” on your physics courses but you can’t maintain your bulb. You got A on your management and business and you are living broke.

6-It teaches you irrelevant decency

You have to raise your hand to speak. And in later life you raise your hand to do whatever. The world is full of wolves. And you become one sheep who raised their hand before being eaten alive.

Modern education is a great part of life in the world. Without it the world would not be same. But the idea of education that is to produce people of same knowledge and structure is boring and rather useless. Education should be a place where skills are developed and freedom is exercised. Not a place of 9 to 5 with master and son dramas, and judgement based on ability to memorize that at the end of the day a useless information.

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This is your life? Whose life are you living?

This is your life? Whose life are you living?

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Many people suffer of losing the game for the unknown. For this they live a life they don’t want to live, to only keep themselves on the edge without falling. The reality is most people are living what is not their dreams. They are living a life that could make money or a life that only gets them an applause. Many couples spent years and years in abusive relationships before realizing it’s too late. Many people work on jobs they don’t like to survive their family. The funny part is most get used to it, even if they are worrying each day. They give birth for more kids, they marry people they don’t like hoping to share their sorrow.

The question at the end of the day is whose card are you playing? If the things you are doing are not in your life book, then, it is probable that you will lose the lost battle for real.

I have thought about games in life some months before. I was in a deep worry for someone whose life was a living misery. His dysfunctional relationship with a dysfunctional woman was a viral disease for the surrounding. His worry makes us live in a deep pit where is hard to leave without giving them a solution. The game was not invented or was not a creative one. It was simply a kind that I despised when I grow.

The process took a lot of money, lots of entry and sleepless nights. Their worry and kid character created a new scenario and new game for everyone around them. And the process affected everyone around.

Months after a funny thing happened. Most of the people around them was already broke trying to lull them in to peace. And everyone forgotten their life thinking these peoples less life.

And when everything was over and when the chaos was finalized for once and for all, everyone was on the field. Thinking what am I doing there.

The actors had left the field making it barren land. They went on with their life that seemed better. They never blinked twice to break the friendship. The friends were the losers in the relationship after all. For this they received lashes from themselves.

You probably have to ask yourself who is the magician in your life. Who is the one to ask it this you card? If you can’t answer this question, you should probably have to continue reading. I will show the way to identify who has the card.

1-You find yourself in other’s life.

If you continuously find yourself cooking other’s dinner you should watch out. I was a huge fan of entering other’s yogurts, like that fly. I intervened to help anyone whom I think needed a help. As the story above is written, at the same time I find myself being demanded more. And sometimes it feels I am too much there and I don’t have life myself. I read advice from elderly people hat, helping others is good but you can’t forget that they have their own destiny and you don’t have to interfere in their destiny without being asked.

2-You are confused and following the wrong pedestrian.

Have you noticed a stray dog on a street? They follow everyone they see until that person looks back and freaks out and bash them off. If you feel your life is following then you should watch out. following leaders is good for most people out there. But following others without no purpose at heart is dangerous. When the leader changes mind, you should do too. This is your life , create something of it.

3-You have no map of the future.

This is your life, living your life but caught up with the dream of the past. If you don’t have the general picture of what you want to be or if you don’t have a purpose in life then you are living off the leftovers. It is like the mouse who asked for a single wheat seed in front of her, when she is offered the whole wheat in the storage. If you cannot at least see the glitter afar from today, then you are surviving.

This is your life

If at least two of the above points express your current situation, then may be someone is having the card or there is a huge probability that anyone can manipulate you or use you for the fulfilment of their purpose. They can show you the magic in the way that fits. They can flip the card or even cancel the show. If you feel you have no control in life, you should get up from this screen and do something about it. As we always say, the key to your life is in your own hands.

This is your life. Live it for yourself first.

 

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# Does change makes you hate the life you lived?

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I was loyal for bosses. I was very weak at heart for people I liked. I had lost through it.

Because the value I gave is much more than the value I got. I always lost.  Does this make me a loser?

The last six months of my life was a struggle to seem useful. My worry of rushing age and unsatisfied potential all killed me inside. I had no choice but to make adjustment to my days and to learn about myself all over again. I had to throw out what I already have to make a room for what is to come.

..Life is not of a sure thing. You only take a calculated risk. But here is always a consequence. They say you at least have two options, but both have a place of a destiny of own.

The consequences of my adjustment and change in life

For the first time in life I felt like I am the best thing that ever happened to earth. I questioned myself whether I was crazy for all these years for doubting myself. I felt like I am here on earth for worthwhile project. Through loving myself, I cared for my body, spirit and soul. My worries that satisfied my poor mind could no longer be invited to hurt my spirit. I took responsibility.  I no longer can run away from life.

I started thinking about passing away.

I always have lived for the future, for the unknown and for what lacks. Everything I have known was useless since I already know it. And I always struggled to know more.

When you feel for the first time about dying then you will notice how rigid you are in life. Whatever you do in life, it is sure you will pass. Then,why don’t you pass away doing what is worth?

Why the hell would you worry about other’s opinions of you?

Who is James bond for you or who are the Kardashian for you? We are a dead being in a flesh with a mediocre breath. It is sure you will pass and be forgotten. Get up and do something or you are already dead like the Schrodinger’s cat.

I knew that instead of talking, I can give.

Instead of only reading I can write, what ever it is I can write. I dropped everything that made me in the past to create a new beginning that negates it.

 Life is not about keeping what you have, but giving it away while looking for something new.

I started to feel today.

My mind almost stopped worrying about tomorrow and started living today no matter how scary it seemed. I looked up, and like a person in a trance, I wondered how beautiful the day was ? How beautiful the sky is? where was l all this time? I went out to touch and feel my cat’s fur. She was angry as obvious.  Her presence was full of energy that I could not express with words.

I am lucky to be here.

I am lucky to own a car.

I am lucky to have a family.

I am lucky to see a new day.

The night is good the blue sky is beautiful. We are all lucky to have earth other.

I ignored most of my practices.

I limited the time I help others and focused on myself. When I started to understand myself, and tried to work on my weakness. If I had read 80 percent of my time now I write 80 percent of my time. If I had ate 3 time a day, now I eat more. If I go to places I didn’t enjoy then I stopped going. Simple but powerful.

I ignored other’s opinion and started doing what I wanted. For the first time, I stopped being yes man to my boss and told him that it was his responsibility to do the things that were supposed to be done . I stopped a girl that was continuously chatting with me while I was on my job giving her another time to talk with her. Boy, she was never  happy she was with it but it helped me finish my work on time.

Consequence of the consequence.

I started noticing change in life. I hated sitting in my office for long and wanted to finish my work as fast to be somewhere else with a clear mind to think or socialize.

I almost stopped over analysing things to start doing.

People lost my complete presence in their destiny and they started questioning if I was OK. My sacrifice for their bare smile was not available for the first time. I noticed people who walked out of my life. I was happy for them. Of course, I can’t take them back in to my life. Their deceptions won’t work on me anymore since I am learning to discriminate.

I love my self. I am the hero feeling like hugging and kissing myself. You know if things around us is made by people not better than us, then why do we feel less?  The other day, a guy was yelling for his own mistakes, I didn’t respond. I was already above it.

At the end, some People started questioning what happened to me with in the last few months.  My decisions were aligned with my actions better than before. It makes people wonder if I am deliberately ignoring them.

Writing this article, I am thinking of what is left to do. What is done is much less than what should be done before September, before my project is over. I still have to refocus on what is already done and what the results are on today before complaining and projecting on the future. Change in life made me hate the routine and I learnt to love myself out of the routine.

 

 

 

 

 

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The notion of being satisfied in life and success

being satisfied in life success _ grandselfA friend of mine told me today about the notion of being satisfied before satisfying others. The idea was raised when discussing about marriage. She said “one should start thinking about marriage after being satisfied with himself first.” A man (or a woman) should have a purposeful life already. His satisfaction and achievement in money, success and purposeful life should be the basics for finding someone.

After being satisfied, and being in the trace a man or woman should wait for the one to appear being amazed with the achievement.

But the real question is how a one gets satisfied.

Satisfaction is a result of purposeful life and achievement. A day in the live of the purposeful living being is progress. It is a life itself in the form of the living.

Living a satisfactory life is measured based on the general goals and vision of one self. Without such a goal, it would be judging based on emotion. It is hard to say the day is good or bad since it depends on the emotional state of the observer.  To live a satisfactory life, one should have a list of things that would make him/her satisfied if achieved.

Being satisfied is actually a life time job.

…Satisfaction has a responsibility with it.

If one plans to get satisfied to achieve a certain goal, then the person has a responsibility to live as per the life style the achievement brought. Some people are too satisfied with their rich they make and they spend it without second thought.

You love other as much as you love yourself. And you see people with in the periscope of your limited experience, therefore your achievement. Then you only attract those whose shadow aligned with yours. Your satisfaction in other’s achievement is as much as your satisfaction with yours’s. The flesh and bone of your satisfaction decides on what kind of life you want to live an that kind of people you want to attract.

 

 

 

 

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Figuring out who you are in easy steps without much worry and time

who you are _ grandselfFiguring out who you are is a hard task. These day it seems that we are delusional with the busyness of the world and we are lost in it. It is like being lost in the storm. The problem is not with being lost the problem is in being lost in it but the problem is we are lost without second taught out our lives. The storm will come and go on its own time. No matter what we wish. It hast its own life, its own age and its own show. The Melancholy is our struggle to make sense out of it. In fact, we are lost in it, looking its temporal presence around us, its gracious thunders and hurricanes.

The way to figure out self is to think and to have time to think. If you’re caught up in the chaos of the world and trying to make sense out of the thunders and the storms then you lose.

1-The first thing I realized after long struggle with information overload is no to read or listen or learn any more, more than I do things.

Everything you do should be equivalent to everything you know. You cannot figure out your purpose without facing challenges. Reading is good but experience is better.

Surprisingly, most people who don’t read much are the visible actors of our day to day life.They dare to put their toes in to the water to test the water. They test the unknown without much information. And no matter how good or bad, they experience the result.   Next time you find your self trying to figure out who you are with excess information , stop and look back to your self. The answer is  in you. the information is only guidance.

2-Second. Listening your guts is the way to progress.

The problems I identified in my life recently are the things my guts used to tell me to do without mentioning that they were things I had to do. But procrastination and other related problems limited my engagement from doing. When your guts tell you to do something, believe me do that. Just write them down and do that. If you have to visit a long-lost friend, and you are told repetitively to do, then put what every you are doing, go and see your friend. If you are thinking to know about your car motor, or to start gym, then start them now. May be your mind is telling you to become stronger, to be more of a human.  No overthinking, just doing.

3- Third, look into yourself.

EBay advises to look back to your house to find something to sell. To find yourself, look back to yourself.  You are who you are. You are not who you are going to be.  Look back to yourself, question yourself, question your ways.

4- Forget other’s opinion if you want to make a difference.

People are usually pretentious. They pretend to be what they are not.  Three things, people talk in terms of their context, their limited experience and their current emotional state. This means their comments change based on these three points. Second people comment on your appearance and your efforts, just for the sake of commenting. My work connects me with clients. Third, people only see your cover. No one knows your inside. Listen to opinions, but don’t over salivate on them.

5-Don’t listen to your mind telling you that you are not yet there to figure out your purpose.

Doing something takes a lot of energy. Your mind it constantly distracting you from investing your energy. That is the reason you procrastinate. You keep reading, having experiences until one day you realize that no matter how much you keep reading you are not there yet. Life should be about maximizing the knowledge you already have and improving on it.

6-Finally, free mind and stillness have the answer.

It is not about yoga or religion. It is about having time with the heart and with the mind. To listen to yourself, you should stop listening to the world. The world talks and it talks in terms of its positions. These days opinions are every there. Everyone has one. If you have time for long with yourself you will easily understand the world, its ways and your role in it. If you see any region leader or any successful person, you will notice the made time for themselves to understand their life, their purpose and their destiny.

Here I will write my experience of figuring out who I am.

1-How you see your self is everything.

Don’t underestimate yourself. You are human. You are the best thing that happens to earth. No matter what others tell you, no matter how you draw yourself to be, you are still the greatest creation. Don’t see this as a lie or movement to support your self-confidence. Or nothing like fake it until you make it. I could be the most critical person you could find. I could tell you that you are a zebra if you are. Now, I will tell you again if you are, of course if you are human being, don’t discourage yourself. You are great. The difference is what you make out of your greatness. Even diamonds lose visual value if lost in valueless places. But you should know once they are found they gain their value again.

2- Knowing strength and weakness is the first step.

Veyner chuk on his book, talks about DNA. DNA is who you are, your strength. If no one can do as you can do on something that you like then do that. But before that you should note your strength and your weakness.

3- How do you want to be seen few years from now?

Most successful people ask what do I want to be after 10 years. Ask yourself, what do I want to be when it is all set and done. As the person said, you have no control on your emotion, but you have control on your actions. Based on what you want to be do that.

4-What have you done for long without realizing you are doing that.

For me, for example, started reading self-help books since 12. I dint know why I like them. I wanted to be successful and big without even knowing what is to be successful or big. Some of you may wanted to be an astronaut for long. Some of you a dancer…you name it.

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7 deadly signs that you are living with a bully and the fastest way out

Your good deeds are defined against the perspective of others. Your dreams are dreamt in terms of other’s dreams. If you want to live a safe life, get away from people. If you want to live a strong life, filter your people.

Are you living with a bully, abuser, control freak? You name it.  Here are watch out signs that you are probably living with a bully and you are losing a lot in life.

1-They expect perfection fro you and they are not even commited to smallest things in their life.

A father once punished his daughter for losing a penny. And only within a week, coming back from work with his salary in his front pocket, he was robbed. He didn’t even realized that he was robbed until he gets home. People shouldnot demand perfection out of you. Failure is a nature’s way of survival. A drying leaf is not dead until one collects it in to abag. It fertilizest the ground with its death. We can’t live without failure. We can’t grow without it. People cannot shut you down, shame you for long for making a mistake.

2-They kick you on the curb for your honest opinions.

You can’t say your heart when you are with them. They will belittle you when you start speaking what you have on mind and they ignore your mind, your ideas. They bully you out of pure intention of despairing you form further talking. You feel so little or betrayed when you are with them. You live with them for fearing the future that they drew for you. They will tell you to leave if you want but you can’t leave because they have made you the lowest form of yourself.

3-They don’t like you when you are soft.

They will tell you to speak up not to help you do that but to reflect their failing character on you. And show you their superiority. Asking same thing with other bully type kids, you are told to leave and the others get what they ask for. You are always questioning why? Or sometimes you ask through the other kids because of the hard answer you always get. You feel it is you and your introvert ways. This really could be you are being abused.

bully _ grandself4-They draw fear on you.

You are constantly bombarded with insults. They compare you with others, friends, family and told you are worse. You are the worst daughter they have. They are one of the stupidest students that the school had. You have life. You have no future. you should look for jobs. And you now living that life you are told you would live.

5-They have compulsive character.

They start their day with sadness, compliant or maybe with drinks. They curse they break things and they make you the reason for their failure life.  “Bob, come and see what you did.” You come in and see your pen is on the floor. “Bob come and see what you did!” You come in and see the table cloth is falling. “Bob come and see what you did!” The tv is still on and you don’t know who put it on. They constantly bombard you with their perfection demanding critics.

6-They tell you to do something and you do it.

You have no opinion on the matter and they tell you to shut up and sit tight aggressively or smoothly when you speak on a meeting, against your boss’s opinion. You are out of the game unless you are a ‘yes man’. Your opinion does not matter and your presence is to serve accomplish their superior ideas. You have not enough payback for your efforts. You are paid same salary staying until 9 with boss’s request. In fact, is an order it is not a request. You are to le to do something and you do it. You are in fear of speaking up or do it in your own way, fearing you would be fired.

7-You have been beaten.

I know a guy with bruises on his arms. I was wondering what had happened to him looking at his arm under his short sleeves. But didn’t. My imagination escaped and I answered myself he probably hurt himself. He noticed and said.  “My wife is strong”.

I didn’t get it. “What do you mean?”, I smiled?

“When my wife is unhappy, she beats me.” What a confused little guy!  It is love after all he gasped and leave the bathroom. He lives with a bully and he does not know.

You may one day look back and see what made you this way.  We are not created to fail. We can’t fail. After all, we human beings make the hurdles. We can’t fail the huddles made by these who are not better than us, as jobs once said. There is nothing new in this world. If you think it thought it is not you’re stupidly that makes you failure in school. It is probably your upbringing and you had no one to discipline you.

It is not usually your fault for making bad choices in life, it is your lack of knowledge and way of thinking. Don’t let anyone tell you who you are. That is disrespectful. That is outrageous. Don’t fight back. That is the continuation of the bad character. But stand up for once and have time to think what you can do. And do it. You can’t live with a bully and hope they will be angels one day. Just get out, run and don’t look back.

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11 things you should know to find your purpose in the world

Your purpose,

your purpose _ grandselfHere are 11 things you should know for discovering and cultivating your deepest purpose as a human being.

1- Deepest purpose comes in stillness.

You can’t understand life in a chaos. As some eastern religions teach you can understand some things by being still, out of present, meditating on a small thing.

2- Change the pattern of life to find your purpose

The day to day life gives you a homework. You don’t have time to envision your life and find your purpose. If you are lucky you have a job that you can take off a day or two or more. If you don’t use your weekends. Change your location, change your actions every time for the next two days, fast, pray and rethink your purpose.

3- Your purpose does not change but your mind does.

Some authors like…the way of the superior man…said your mind wanders, moody based on your experience. Once you like something and other times you hate it or you get bored of it. In any case your purpose still awaits to be unveiled.

4- Finding and working on your purpose pays off.

Some people work for money and lose their purpose for materials. Others live for a purpose for long, they perfect it or recreate something though it and make money for life, even though it could be late.

5- Others usually don’t like it when you live your purpose.

When you live your purpose, you have to have your own rules that negates other’s rules. You are different and unique in some ways. You have a goal that you follow and you tend to forget being a friend for all. People usually hate you for it since you show them their unfulfilled purpose. Others hate you because they will see you leave in the middle of wasted time. People judge you because they see you through their life. Look in history you can’t find anyone who is not ridiculed for their ideas.

6- At the end of the day your purpose will be accepted.

Ideas are scary, especially when you are the one who have them. If you fear the status quo, you will die with it. If you are strong enough to take risk of the consequences then you speak it and take whatever comes. Many are pushed away, killed for their ideas and belief. It is the weak responsibility to display congruity through violence. The smart shape the idea and the rest execute it. Live your purpose even though you are persecuted for it. At the end, probably after you passed away, you will be remembered for your contribution. That will be your legacy.

7- It takes time.

purpose takes cultivation. It needs continuous growth before seeing its results. It took Beethoven 4 years for its genius masterpiece and Jesus 30 years to teach and have followers and Einstein many years to write his papers. The result of purpose is seen out of unseen practices and studies. What you have inside is seen on outside. Perfecting something takes time. Don’t rush through life. Don’t look for shortcuts in life. Take the hardest way out. You won’t regret it.

8- Read books.

People live based on experience. And experiences are limited. If you live on leftovers of your limited perspectives then you lost a lot. You should see far from the shore. There is land that has beautiful trees, sunny sky and fertile land. With reading you change your world fast. You get perspective of many authors.  For some of you reading is a habit. If it is then you should take care of information overload. Some people read as an addiction. When it becomes an addiction, then it gives you a constant check point where you reflect on yourself but you can’t change that fact for you don’t have the time and the space in your mind. If you know your purpose, then you are lucky already. Leave this pc and go live it.

9- If you find your purpose then you are lucky.

This means you found something that you live for 24 hours a day. It is something that you could work for, for free. You are unique here. You are one of the few out there in the world. If you’re in this category, you should start producing something that could be seen and useful.  Thinking and reading, contemplating ideas is good, but your purpose is best expressed though action. Have an idea or a project and go do it, no matter how small or useless it seems and learn from it.

10- You have the right to change your destiny.

I don’t believe we are destined to some written destiny. We can choose our life where we live, whom we marry and more. Adam and eve changed their face by not respecting the commandment they got. Criminals change their destiny by breaking the rules. The scientist says we can’t say the rat is dead or not dead until it eats or pass the poisoned food. You have minimum of two options in any situation : to speak or to silence; to be happy or to be sad. You can live your purpose or live your night mare. It is up to you.

11- Money is the least of things to measure worth of your purpose.

You are wrong if you think your highly paid friend is living better than you in his purpose. Money doesn’t measure purpose. There are millions of people who hate their jobs regardless of the payment. I remember times I wanted to run away even having an attractive position and good salary. These riches do not reflect your purpose. Don’t measure yourself or your purpose against material gains.

 

 

 

 

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Am I good enough? : 7 things you should answer before questioning your self worth

Am I good enough? Are you good enough? Really? What makes you say that? Why do you think you are enough? Why would you think you are not good enough? I know some of you are doubting if you are good enough for the your mate or if you even have a chance of making a change in the world.

Value,some say, is better than success. But how do you measure your value? Is there is a fixed measure of who is enough and who is a total waste of time.

The thing about the current ‘pop culture’ is everyone is measured from a single or similar perspective. Your worth is measured in terms of money you make.

A person’s relative value is expressed with some amount of money. Or whether you are good enough or not is measured with you past experiences, with the mistakes you have made. A once criminal is always criminal, his papers are scripted with reds as if they are danger to the society.

Or your relevance is measured with the CV you have made. With the articulation of yourself on paper. You measure yourself against a teen with less than average confidence who worked on her face for 3 hours before selecting a single picture out of the other 50 she took the next 2 hours. Or you are measured against how many followers you have on some social media. The more you have, the more you feel you are good enough.

I have sometimes doubted my relevance to life or to living or even to my own life. I have asked myself “am I good enough?”

Here are 7 things that you should answer before answering “am I good enough?”

1- You are never good enough.

Life is a progress. Looking back a decade before, you probably had a shitty high school life, you had a bad day always, you had the worst hair style. But on today you can’t do that. You won’t do that. It is out of context. You have grown or the times have changed and you don’t crawl anymore as you were a child.   If you can’t appreciate the current life without fully criticizing it then you are never good enough. Now list things you have that you should be happy with. And appreciate yourself.

Am I good enough _ grandself2- At some point, someone is better than you are.

If you are good engineer believe me there is a better engineer out there than you are. If you take your diploma from MIT there is a better candidate with better grads, better inventions or better IQ. Something is good enough until another is invented. A cart was a perfect invention for these who don’t know about motors. And fuel cars are better for those who don’t see electric cars. You are good enough until something else or someone else comes along. Keep asking ” am i good enough “, you wont get the answer. Now you have two choices, fighting the new thing that comes along or keep working on yourself. Am I good enough? Yes and I know that there are other who are better than I am.

3- You failed does not mean you are not good enough.

People fail. Even these who we thing are perfect failed. You are only human that could be true in some of its sense. You can’t be hard on yourself for failing. Only failing is the best and true way to excel. Edison said he failed hundreds of times before coming up with his invention of life time. Put yourself in his shoes. Unless you have OCD you probably won’t continue the task hundreds of times. You should go on to your life. That is what everybody says. But think when you fail, this means you have tried something. You are at least better than those who sit and judge without knowing your world. Am i good enough is not answered with your failure.

4- What you have does not measure your worth.

People talk in things that the think you have today. That is true for an investor, since he has to minimize risks. But in life risks makes you successful. Then you should not measure yourself with what you have today. If you are obese, you could change that in a year time. If you have D and F in your school paper, then you can read and change that. You are a failure, as you may think, does not mean you are a failure tomorrow. Look at these who are on top. Lis them they all have one thing in common, they all were failures at one time and now look where they are. Am i good rich or famous, probably not. Am i good enough, yes, i am.

5-  If you think you can or you cannot, you are correct.

Your world is in your own hands. IF you think are not good enough or not you are correct. I have always thought, when I was a small child, are we poor because we think we are poor or we think we are poor because we are poor.  Looking close poor people, I knew, I realized that their short-circuited thought of themselves s as ultimate poor kept them from growing up. Their family influence, their neighbourhood influence made them think short of themselves. Whatever you like to think about yourself, then you are right about it. Then am i good enough doesn’t have one direct answer , you answer is your self with your own understanding. Am i good enough? Yes and I will work to be it.

6-  Others create your self image

Abusing husband, selfish wife, unsatisfying instructor, mindless leader…What these have in common is they portray their immature opinion up on your fearful life. The more you stay with the, the more you doubt yourself. I have noticed how my life is dependent on peer pressure. The good people I have closer the better I become. And there are times in history who committed large level public suicide brain washed they will be good enough when they leave this life to the next.

How do you perceive this statement thinking with your sane mind? Who is brain washing you? What kind of media do you fallow? Do you watch these live tv shows that shows you the despaired action of clinging to life? It is up to you. List them here now and quit these people out of your life, without notifying then unless necessary. You are doing them a favour by doing that. Am I good enough? Yes, only I tell my worth.

7- We are not perfect.

We are human beings. A one who thinks in perfection, does not understand the walks of tis life. Life itself is not perfect when seen from a single perspective. A person dying is a cruel part of life. But without someone dying the world would have been without a place for the new generation. A plant dying is a necessary for the fertility of the ground. A wolf eating a rabbit keep s the environment alive. By perceiving life from a single dimension, you might criticize life. It is only life is not perfect from your perceptive. And events don’t tell you whether you are good enough or not. Be happy. Am i good enough? yes, but I are not perfect.

I can’t tell you whether you are good enough or not. Your worth is not measured with my opinion. It is up to you to declare your worth in your own beautiful way. Now stand up and change your life for good. Think life is a progress and you should work on tomorrow while appreciating your today. And learn to notice who is making a difference in your life and who is killing you. And think we are not perfect and we are perfect at the same time. It is how you see things.

 

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I am tired: 4 ultimate reasons why you have to stop for a moment in life

I am tired and always exhausted and I am never mentally sober. I have to take a week off. But can I? I am a personality stack between what is and what could be. Looking at my future with vague image, I am tired and exhausted with deep wishes and regrets.

The idea of becoming someone cannot leave one in with a simple sign of exhaustion. It is simply a way of survival. Looking at successful people and witnessing their life, how can one give up?

Some people cant give a break in their life. They run around with exhaustion. The so called gurus tell you that there is no such a ting as burning out as if every one has same mental capacity. No matter how strong you are , there are things that makes you mentally or physically exhausted.

Here are times that you have to take time off your life and rest for a moment so that you could be successful again. 

1-You should take time if it is a health issue.

Health is the number one asset any one can have. Without health, you cannot succeed. You cannot eat he fruit of your effort.

” I am tired ” could be a sign of physical stress. Eye fatigue or headache from the long hours on a computer. Not getting a fast treatment or a temporary break, these things become harder and harder on you. Timely untreated defects could become untreated through time.

Don’t live like this. Your health is a wealth that you can’t work for to get. You can’t sacrifice your health for the gains of the earth. That is unacceptable. If you have any pain, if you have any sign of sickness, just get up now and see a doctor. Take time until your body gains strength.

2-You should take time off if it helps you reboot.

Many authors talk about inspiration, even if the current trend of authorship negates that. Inspiration guides creativity. If you are creative person, you know what I am talking about. A poem at the time it is written and at time it is re-read give two different vibes.  When written it is from the subconscious, and not understood from the rational conscious part of the mind. It usually makes you question ‘’did I really write this?’’

And usually there is dead-end of writing, that writers call ‘writers block’ When you have a ‘life block’ then you should consider taking time off or sometimes reboot. This give your mind to reorganize itself. I am tired to continue so I take a break and see how it turns out.

3-You should take time off it is necessary for your family.

Family is everything. We are responsible for their well being. If you can’t attend your wife’s birthday or your father’s funeral because of your work then you should rethink what you are doing. You should have some time off for these ceremonies. This is what family is, thinking for each other. And this should be expressed through action. I have a boss who stayed until 12 in mid evening while his wife is in labour. I am not sure even he attended his daughter’s birth on time. That is pity. Get that PC off and go to your daughter’s dance, your son’s club activity. Go see your wife at work and surprise her. If you have been emotionally away from your wife, go and prepare your day to surprise her at the evening. If you promised and forgot, take time off to do whatever. Family comes second to health.

4-Life is a hard work.

It should stay that way. Without hard work, you can’t claim living. If you are hard worker even workaholic then you should examine your life. Test your ways and see how your work is affecting you. You can’t quit running even if it hurts. What does not kill you makes you stronger, as they say. If so quitting for while should come if and only if it means your health, your inspiration or your family. Small rests in between life could fix the rest of your tedium. What other reason could you put to get off your work for a while?

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Appreciate your life: 4 tips to appreciate your life no matter what they say

appreciate your life _ grand self…A story

Prisons were being transported to be stand in front of a judge. The solders beat everyone at the back when one of them made a noise. One of the prisoner said “don’t bring us no harm no more.” While arriving at the court, the jury sentenced them to die. And the prisoner said, “don’t bring us not more. The other prisoner shouted on him, frustrated and pissed off, “what else could come upon us than death?”

Before he finished speaking, a solder came running in with a message and fave a strict command that the judge decided they should get 50 lashes before they die.

And the angry prisoner himself said “don’t bring us no harm no more.”

Appreciating what we have is what me miss in this age. We are always wishing and day dreaming. We are ignoring the fact that life should be appreciate and celebrated. I know a lot of people living on tomorrow with daydreams on today.

For a life to grow you should appreciate what you have today. Here I will show you four ways to appreciate your life that have learn from my own experiences.

1-To appreciate your life, coming out of the zone.

Getting used to something is good but ignoring the rest is bad. If you live your life as you have lived years before, then you should watch out. Living life as we have lived is the straight way to perishing.  You can’t live life as you have lived when you were 20 or 25 at 30.  Something should change. Think things that you have done again and again without escaping a day. Think where you eat your breakfast, places you have been and more.

Are you that unchanging person who is in love with his scrip of his life. If then, why don’t you try changing your ways. Why don’t you go out and see another experience? For today don’t buy coffee from Starbucks, try a small café at the end of the corner. For next day don’t go out lunch alone, invite that secretory that you were wishing to have lunch with, for next week plan a trip to out of city with your family, for weekends stop using PC and watch TV with children or make something with your partner. Believe me, when you do more and more of this, you will tart appreciating what you have.

2-To appreciate your life, appreciate your challanges

They say for every hero there is a villain. For every day, there is night. These negatives (challenges) are not created to suffer you but to elevate you. The harder the villain is the better and the stronger the hero will be. The darker the night is the more you will love your days. You have to embrace the negatives of your life no matter how strong they could be. From this you should start taking responsibilities.

Challenges arise to test us our worth and our capacity to take new responsibility. If you don’t have the challenge then I am afraid that you won’t know your true potential. Martin Luther was shot to death, Christ was hung on cross and many people’s ideas are shot before their day.  And their deed was greater than any of these on the chapters of history.

Learn to embrace the negative as it’s the way to grow you.

3- To appreciate your life, Ask others about yourself.

I have recently watched a video on YouTube. It is about how what we see about us and what others see about us. And one of the guys say I don’t like my chick bones, I don’t like my gig face. The people that watch him from the other room say, that guy is confident, his chick bone made his face beautiful…Believe me most of us are harsh on our selve.  We barely appreciate our selves.  You will perceive a different side of the image when you flip the perspective to others and ask others what they think of you. Don’t ask directly as you can offend people, but make people talk about your god and bad sides.  You will see how people like that you have than what you don’t have.

4- To appreciate your life, note your emotions and your thoughts

In this running world, you can’t remember most of the things you do every day. In the morning, your cat might scratch you and you are angry. You don’t notice people on you were on the road fixed on the pain. YOU ignore your colleague how was angry on you. And your day was bad. Your boss called you and gives crap, probably harsher than yesterday. You are angry. You hate your life.  But when you get home and cried and picked your notebook and start reading. And you saw the day that your family surprised you, you saw the happy sketch you did when you a boyfriend proposed you, you see the day your received a prize for hard work. Life was never this way.  And that small book saved your life.

There is not right and wrong way to appreciate your life. Looking for more is everyone’s character.  No matter what it is you should learn to appreciate what you have.